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Vincent was born on May 23, 1961 and Andrew was born three years
later on September 6, 1964. It seems that the boys were not just brothers but good friends right from the start.
As bright little boys they attended St. Francis Cabrini School, where they acquired the early academic skills that were so necessary toward their continuing education. In addition, they developed religious values, which they carried with them throughout their lives.
They then went on to Poly Prep Country Day School, which was probably the most enjoyable part of their education. They participated in their respective sports and grew into lively teenagers who were furthering their educations, preparing for the future, and doing it all with enormous amount of pleasure and pride. They considered the years they spent at Poly Prep as part of the most memorable times of their lives.
After Poly, Vincent went on to Ithaca College and Andrew went to C.W. Post where he met Carolyn. From that moment on, Andrew had a future wife and Vincent had a sister. Naturally, when Andrew and Carolyn were married, they chose Vincent to serve as best man at their wedding.
When Vincent's job took him to London, Andrew and Carolyn vacationed there and all three shopped at Harrods Department Store for memorable Christmas ornaments for the family Christmas tree which they decorated together at Andrew and Carolyn's home in Melville, Long Island.
On summer weekends, Andrew and Carolyn often drove to Vincent's rented summerhouse on the Jersey Shore where they enjoyed the sun, the ocean breeze, some good fishing and most of all just being together. They treasured their weekends at the shore.
Everyone referred to Vincent and Andrew as Best Friends, Brothers at Work and Play. That's why it was no surprise that on the morning of September 11, 2001, when the terrorist plane struck the World Trade Center, Vincent and Andrew were together, at work at Cantor Fitzgerald, on the 105th floor of Tower One.
Their lives on this earth ended that terrible day, but we will always remember
Vincent and Andrew as Bright Little Boys who grew into Lively Teenagers and emerged as Intelligent, Successful Bond Traders who were highly respected in their field.
They possessed wonderful family values and throughout their lives treated each and every person with whom they connected with kindness, courtesy and respect.
...They will be sorely missed.
Dear Vincent and Andrew... You were the joy of my life...
The years I spent helping you both grow into responsible adults were the most fulfilling of my life.
You grew into loving sons, devoted to each other and me. Carolyn completed our world by marrying Andrew and capturing all our hearts.
Your love and respect for family and friends was evident each and every day of our lives.
You shared a wonderful friendship with Michael Uliano, and when he married Linda she fit lovingly into our family portrait.
I know that you are both in heaven with Michael and that each of you is surrounding us with your love and protection.
You left me with wonderful memories... But you left me much too soon. I needed more time with you.
So, My Darling Sons... Until we meet again, I know you will be watching over me, as I once watched over you.
I Love You Always... Mommy
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I do not know your sons but in the days since September 11th I have been reading the portraits that the New York Times has been publishing. I remember their faces on CNN and MSNBC as missing persons when there was still hope. I feel like I am meeting people for the first time through these stories and can't imagine the tremendous loss that you and other families feel. I am also a mother of two sons and they are my world. To lose them would be to take a part of me with them. Mrs. Abate, my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
Kelly Price, Fellow New York (State) Resident
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Vincent Abate was a special saint sent by God. He was extremely generous, kind, thoughtful & caring. He was unmatched by far!!!! I loved Vinny like a brother. My only regret was not telling him. I met Vinny in the late 80's when he was dating my sister, Rosalie. In those days, we would go water skiing & jet skiing on Vinny & Craig's boat. By night, we would all be going to the South Jersey clubs. He was full of life & literally lived his life by burning two ends of a candle. We were avid poker buddies & Vin was an avid track horse fan. His brother Andrew was very similiar to Vinny, always smiling and having a kind word to say. Never once did Vinny ever bad mouth anyone, never once. He is a model for all of us to follow. What a beautiful person. I know Vinny is running a card game up in Heaven & is reserving the seat next to him for ME!!! Vinny loved Sinatra & he would always say, "Joey sing a Sinatra song for me." Funny, the Sunday before we were all with Vinny at his Manasquan Beach house enjoying body surfing, flying kites, fishing & singing. Vinny loved life!!! What can I say, but I love you VIN & WILL always miss you terribly. I hope some day we will meet & can have that large poker game in the sky. You're the best Vin. May God bless you & protect you for eternity.
Joseph Currei, Very good friend
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I would like to say to the family of both these wonderful men, how truly sorry I am. I was a manager for the Cantor Cafe. Every morning Andrew would come in nice and early to get his half hazelnut and half decaf cup of coffee, we always talked about our commute in because I live in Northport. It was nice every morning to have a chat. Vinny always told me all the great stories about his beach house. They were both so down to earth. It was always a pleasure to see them. I will miss them and pray for you (their family).
Caroline Carbonaro, Was Manager at Cantor Cafe
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Dear Mrs. Abate, my husband, Tim O'Brien was on the 105th floor with both of your sons on September 11th. If I'm not mistaken, they sat just two seats away from each other. I also used to work with Vinny at Patriot Securities and he was a wonderful friend to me! He made me laugh every day. He always had a smile on his face no matter what the day was like. Vinny spoke of you often and we compared notes on our wonderful Italian mothers. I will miss Vinny very much, as will everyone who knew him, and I wish I knew Andrew better! I take great comfort in knowing that my Timmy was with such wonderful, amazing people who he loved to work with and call friends! My heart goes out to you and Carolyn-you will forever be in my thoughts and prayers!
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Carolyn,
My dearest best friend, there will never be a day that I don't think of Andrew. I miss him and will miss him always. I will always be there for you, remember that.
Andrew had a special way about him to light up a room without ever knowing it. He made me laugh and smile and I'm so lucky he was part of my life, even for a short while. I will cherish our dinners with Andrew and Vinnie and watching the two of them play quick draw.
Please remember, the memories will always be with you and they are both looking down at you every day and will always be your own special angels.
Love you always, April
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Mrs. Abate and family,
I wanted to express my deepest heartfelt condolences to you all. I worked with Vinnie at Patriot Securities...and later was surprised to run into him while working at Cantor...just seeing him brought a smile to my face...and a strange sense of comfort. From the time I first met him at Patriot he was always respectful, kind and especially generous...three qualities not easily found on Wall Street. He would treat high end clients and fledgling newcomers with the same care and concern...and he was sincere about it all. He spoke of you...his mother...and his family often and it was clear his love for you all was tremendous and nothing was more important to him. I only knew Andrew briefly...but it was also clear they came from the same wonderful home. You had two treasured sons whom any mother would be proud of...and I am truly sorry they were taken from you so soon. I hope you find some comfort in their being together...with Mike...and many other wonderful guys I knew that they worked with. God Bless and watch over you and your family. Trish Espinal (Berka)
Trish Berka Espinal, Former co-worker
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Dear Mr. & Mrs. Abate,
I am so sorry for your loss, words cannot express the sorrow parents must feel when they lose a child and for you two. My beloved fiance Paul Innella worked at Cantor for 15 years and he, too, was lost that terrible day. I share in your sorrow and think of your loss along with mine as I have only one son and can barely think about what his loss would be like. I wish I had words of inspiration for you but I am speechless. I just wanted to let you know so many others are thinking about you and wishing for you all to be as strong as you can.
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Mrs. Abate,
I worked with Vinny years ago at Cowen Gov't Brokers. I was so saddened to learn that he too was lost on Sept. 11th. He was such a great guy. I remember all the times at Moran's and Pipeline. I introduced him to all of my closest friends. Everyone loved him instantly!
I never had the pleasure of meeting your son Andrew but I heard many stories from Vinny. How blessed you are for having such wonderful people in your family!
My deepest condolences to you and your family. You are in my thoughts and prayers.
Vinu Malave, Former co-worker, friend
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Vinnie - you crazy goombah...I worked with Vinnie for 4 years at Patriot Securities with his Uncle John Atorino. I then ran into Vinnie again at Cantor. He was working with my Wife Colleen who was also lost that day. He always made a point of saying hello to Colleen and asking her how her day was. He would also tell her to tell REAPER he said hi. I remember all the fun times we had at the gun ranges and the great parties John Atorino and Lee threw for us and Vinnie was always the life of the party.
He will forever be missed and I know that he is with Col, assuring her that everything will be ok, and waiting for us to be with them once again.
Vinnie, I love you man...watch over my baby for me.
Your BUDDY - Danny Barkow
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Vinny & Andrew,
God had a reason in making you brothers, so that you would never be alone;
And with the love and joy you gave to others, all came back tenfold.
Love and miss you both,
Jody Amaitis
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I knew the Abates from Poly. I have memories of attending the same parties with them. Andrew was my age and my heart really sank when I realized they worked at the same place. They were great guys. May God Bless The Abate Family and know you are in my thoughts and prayers. Andrew and Vinny may be gone but they are not forgotten. Go Blue Devils!!!!!
Theresa Nugent, Co-worker
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I remember Vinny way back in St. Francis Cabrini Elementry School in Brooklyn. We used to flip baseball cards together...Boy what a small world we live in.
I work for Cantor Fitzgerald and probably walked by Vinny & Andrew a million times or maybe even fixed there computers, and we did not recognize each other.
I am so sorry for your loss of two fine sons.
May God bless there souls.
Frederick Concillo, Coworker & schoolmate
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As a mother I myself I mourn with the mother and family of these men, brothers who kept together as a family in life and in death. The only thing that must give their family consolation is that the brothers are together in Heaven.
May God Bless their souls and give their family the strength to carry on.
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Dear Elaine and family,
Words can't express my deep sorrow for your loss. I just discovered after one year that Vinny is gone and his brother Andrew. I am at a loss for words; my prayers for your beautiful, kind sons are with you and your family. I will pray that they have found the peace and love that only our Father in heaven can give. May you also be given his peace and love through this difficult time. I remember Vinny well, he was handsome and kind. Remember we went to eat all together years ago? I spoke to Vinny several times on the phone and he was always a gentlemen. I was just thinking of him the other day; I can't believe he is gone. Vinny and Andrew will be in my prayers and thoughts. I have two sons also;I can only imagine your loss and pain. My love and prayers and sympathy to the Abate family.Love, Lisa
Lisa Valpacchio, friend of Vinny and Elaine Abate-mom
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Dear Vinny-- You were a blessing on this earth to everyone you came into contact with.I will always remember you and the innocence of the love we shared forever. I pray we meet again one day.
Love, Angela
Angela Pergola, Childhood sweetheart
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Andrew--I will remember you always as the funny ,carefree little boy I knew. You are the light of your Mother's life and always will be. Even though I had not seen you in a long time I thougth of you often over the years and hoped we would meet again. I pray you are basking in the warmth of God's love.
Love, Angela
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I ALWAYS CALLED HIM VINCE. ANDREW WAS ALWAYS ANDREW. WE MISS YOU VERY MUCH EVERY DAY THAT GOES BY. I CAN STILL SEE THE CORVETTE & MY68 MUSTANG SIDE BY SIDE IN THE GARAGE. THE CARD GAMES WERE GREAT, WE HAD A GOOD TIME WITH ALL OF YOUR FRIENDS GOD BLESS YOU TILL WE MEET AGAIN.
Joseph & Ro Perez, Neighbor
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*FROM THE HEAVENS*
WE KNOW THAT ON THAT DAY,
GOD SHOWED HIS LIGHT, AND SAY COME THIS WAY
ANDREW AND VINCENT, WERE TWO GREAT MEN
BUT GOD NEEDED THEM TO COME TO HIM'
ALTHOUGHT YOU MISS THEM BOTH, SO MUCH
JUST REMEMBER THEIR WARM EMBRACE AND GENTLE TOUCH
THEY LEFT SO MANY LOVED ONES BEHIND
BUT AS THEY STOOD AT THE PEARLY GATES
WITH THEIR WONDERFUL SMILES AND SEXY LOOKS
THEY STOOD THERE NOT WANTING TO BE LATE
TO ASSIST GOD IN ALL HIS NECESSARY WORKS.
THE DAY WILL COME AND YOU'LL SEE THEM AGAIN
UNTIL THEN, LIVE LIFE, AND HELP EACH OTHER MEND.
(C)Vivian Christine Powell 2006
Vivian Christine Powell, Poet
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As a mother I cannot imagine the horror Mrs. Abate must have felt on 9/11/01. I have two sons that I love like I'm sure Mrs. Abate loved Vincent and Andrew.
Mrs. Abate, you and yours are in my prayers. God bless you, and God bless the USA.
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Andrew and Vincent Abate who in life and death always stuck together, that is true brotherhood, and bravery. God bless both of you who lost your lives that tragic day, but also, god bless everyone who lost their lives that terrible day.
Love Always To Everyone who Gave their Lives That Day
Michelle, No Realationship, just fellow new yorker
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Today is December 2, 2006. It has taken me this long to be able to look at the faces we lost that awful day. To the Abate Family and all the others that we lost that day, I am so very sorry for your losses, I still cant believe it happened and I still dont want to believe it. As I type this I am actually crying, I dont want to cry anymore, I am just so saddened that we lost so many wonderful Americans, and in such an awful way, My prayers are with all the families daily, I think about 911 daily, I didnt know anyone personally but I sure feel like I did. Hang in there families, friends, siblings we will all be together again someday.
Beth, Another affected american
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Brian was a great friend, football teammate and fraternity brother in college. He had a sharp wit, exceptional intellect and one of the kindess spirits I ever knew. He was the guy everyone cheered for because he deserved to succeed. Yeah, Willy!
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VINCE&ANDREW WE STILL THINK OF YOU WE MISS YOU VERY MUCH EVERY SUNDAY AT CHURCH WE PRAY FOR YOU TILL WE MEET AGAIN KEEP THOSE CARD GAMES GOING3-11-08
JOSEPH & Rosemary PEREZ, Neighbor
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Dear Abate Family:
Can 9 years really have gone by already? I did not know your sons nor anyone else that worked at Cantor. I did meet someone who did inside sales there and knew everyone on the floor. As soon as I read Mrs. Abate's posting to her boys and signed it love, Mommy, I lost it. I too am a mother to a 10 year old boy whom I love more than life itself. To lose him would completely destroy me. To lose two at once does not compute. How do you breath after that? The victims of 911 are in my prayers every single night until this day, 01/22/2010. I pray for continued healing for everyone and I know you will all see each other again one day. I have three members of my immediately family who are waiting for me in Heaven. I'll see you there....
Trish, A God-fearing American
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when my heart is lacking in joy, i come back to this site...not because it is all joy, but when i read of brothers slike Andrew and Vincent, i find such a spirit of love and commitment to family that brings light to my heart. For their families left behind, i hope these continuing years will bring you comfort.
Joanna Backman, no relation
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