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Jeffrey Goldflam Date of Birth: May 26, 1953 Position: SVP, Chief Financial Officer Jeff was both a dedicated and loyal individual to both Cantor, as well as his family. His honesty and integrity in his personal life and career, brought inspiration to others. As a husband and father, Jeff put the happiness of his family first. Unique, genuine and intelligent are only a few qualities which made Jeff the person he was. He enjoyed driving his sports car or just sitting on a beach reading a good book. Jeff is remaining alive in our hearts.
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I would like to express my deepest sympathies to the Goldflam family.
Over the summer I had the opportunity to meet Josh, Jeff’s son, and through Josh I got to learn more about Jeff. I was always touched by the close relationship that they shared, Jeff always made sure he had the time to stop and say hello even on the busiest of days. Jeff was always very proud of Josh and his sister.
Jeff’s quiet demeanor and easy going ways made him a boss that I enjoyed working for and would have liked the chance to know better. Even though I didn’t get the chance to work with him a great deal I appreciated the respect that he showed toward his employees.
Jeff will be greatly missed. May he rest in peace.
Carol
Jeff was one of the nicest and knowledgeable people I knew. A true professional in every sense of the word. He was also a very compassionate man. When my mom passed away in January 2001, He couldn’t believe that I came back to work so soon. He wanted to send me home. He told me how hard it was for him to lose both his parents at a young age. We bonded after that.
He also was trying to convince me to get laser surgery for my eyes and would often say to me at least once a day “So, what are you waiting for, are you going to visit Moadel? You won’t be sorry-
He was a true asset to Cantor/Espeed.I miss him and know Risa, Josh and Ashley must be heartbroken. He was truly a very special man.
I know he is in a way better place than here and with his beloved parents.
May God Bless the Goldflam family.
Jeff may be gone, but he is not forgotten.
Jeff – words cannot express what you mean to me and how proud I am to have had the privilege of working for you. You were not just a boss to me -but like my second father.. You are the most intelligent, admired, witty, loved and respected man that anyone can only have the blessing of knowing. I miss you so very much.. I searched endlessly for you those horrible ensuing days – I cannot let go and I never ever will.
I wished I could have been there to protect you Dennis, Bob, Frank and Marty as well as our other beloved colleagues. This was the first time in my career with Cantor that I wasn’t, as you always told me, “in total control”.. I would give up anything in this world to have things the way they were..
There is not one day that goes by that I am not thinking about what you may say in certain situations or if I look into a crowd and think that you are an apparition somewhere – but I know you are guiding me as you always did.
We had such memorable moments that will sustain me for the time to come (I will never forget that quarantined briefcase from Italy still mooing, that infamous Mickey Mantle pic that talks, your pep talks, jokes, and of course your incessant praise and insurmountable trust in me – a true honor you gave to me).
You are the most wonderful boss, amazing father to Josh and Ashley and most importantly, loving husband to Rise.
Jeff you will remain in my heart forever and always.
I have so many things to share that one tribute doesn’t express half of the man that Jeff is and he means to those who he has graced with the mere privilege of knowing him..
When I met Josh for the first time, he was such a sweet and caring person – just like his father…
When I met Ashley, the spitting image of Jeff, I see him.. I feel like he is right there…
Rise – never in my wildest nightmares could I have ever fathomed this. I am so very sorry that I was not there to protect him nor hear his voice one more time… I respect him and love him like a father and as you and Alex and the kids know – would have done anything for him as well as the Goldflam family.
I am completely shattered and void without him around, but knowing that we will forever have a bond as wonderful as Jeff gives me great comfort. I can picture him saying – of all of the pictures – she chose that one??- with that witty Long Island tone that he was constantly fixated on for our earnings’ calls.
As does my love, prayers and heart extend to the Goldflam family, a piece of me is gone as well.. Thank goodness for all of the wonderful moments, laughter and lessons that Jeff has taught me.
Jeff – I always said I would go with you should you have ever have left Cantor (which we knew you would never – you were the driving force that turned eSpeed around).
Jeff – I will be seeing you again as well as in my thoughts to eternity.
You made me smile. It was that simple. I enjoyed being a kid and staying at the house for a week while we played Monopoly and you, of course, would always win. I loved how you didn’t forget Dad and would show me old pictures. You had such a great sense of humor which I think skipped mom and was given to me and Seth. I remember you letting me move the Beemer out of Uncle Brian’s driveway but watching me like a hawk with the rest of the family through the window.
Not a day has gone by that I haven’t thought of you driving up to our house 30 minutes late in one of your nice cars. I love and miss you Uncle Jeff, you will always remain in my heart. Hopefully Poppy is looking out for you now and not picking on you like he always did with me. I promise to look out for Ashley as best as I can. I love you always.
It has been 6 months of shock, pain, craziness, disbelief, tears, and saddness. It has been 6 months of watching you remain alive in your children which is evolving into joy and happiness. I’ll never forget riding out on the LIRR from NYC with Gwen to meet “her brother Jeff.” We didn’t go see Bernie first but to your house. Got to clear everything with baby brother. Gwen who never lies, informs me “I told my baby brother you were older than him becuase I can’t bear to hear him give me shit for marrying a younger man.” I remember you picking us up in the Audi 5000. I will always remember your smile, your laughter, your sense of humor. You always spoke about important people you met or had dinner with ie Kissinger, Greenspan etc. but you never did it with bravado or ego but with “hey guess what I did last week?” I remember sitting in your backyard with the CB scanner listening to cell phone conversations and us laughing so hard it hurt. I remember whenever we came to one anothers house the first topic was “how was traffic, how long did it take?” I remember coming out for my first Thanksgiving dinner to the family (Alex’s house) and it taking 2.5 hours out and 2.5 hours back, I swore I’d NEVER do that again. So know that I will always look after Josh and Ashley and be there for Rise. I’ll be there for the important times starting with Josh’s graduation from IU. I will always miss you. Love Marc
A hundred words are not sufficient to express my sorrow and thoughts of one so fondly remembered.
It must have been at least fifteen years since we last met and exchanged hugs that now have to last me a lifetime. I was hopeful that some day we would have a chance to remember the times we spent as kids and as brother in laws.
I’ve always considered you my little brother that I never had. And when I was in need of assistance you were there. I remember the day you were appointed the youngest vice-president of a major Wall Street firm. I was so proud of you and your accomplishments.
My hundred words are up and I will miss you. My sincerest sympathy to all those who knew and loved you.
I love Jeffrey . He was like my second son. He was funny and loveable and a joy to be with.
His mother was my sister and she is no longer with us, and neither is his father. I hope they are all together now. Love you Jeff.
Aunt Betty
Jeff, my baby cousin. I remember watching you as a little kid. I watched you grow into a great young man. You married your childhood sweetheart Rise, who is a wondeful person. Together you had 2 great kids, You left us way too soon Jeff as there was so much more you had to do. We will always miss you and love you. Cousin Ronnie
Compassionate, Intelligent, Pragmatic, Honest, Sarcastic, Unpretentious, Loyal. My brother lived his life by the values instilled in him in childhood & the standards he set for himself were a tribute to my parents. My pride in his business accomplishments was only exceeded by my pride in the man he had become. His values live on in Ashley & Josh & it breaks my heart that he is no longer here with us. When our father passed away, I cried into Jeff’s shoulder that we were orphans now & he said that I would never be an orphan because I would always have him. Well, I have him in my heart & I will carry him with me forever. He is deeply missed by all those who knew him & especially by all of us who loved him.
Jeff,
I spent almost 48 hours searching for you and Brian. I just wanted to find out anything I could so I can report back to Rise, Josh, Ashley and Jodie anything. When I was looking for a photo of you the only one I had was from Jodie and Brian’s wedding. That is when I realized it was the last time that I saw you. I never thought it would have been the last. Filling out your missing person’s form was the hardest thing in my life I ever had to do.
Though we didn’t see each other as much as an adult as I did when I was a kid you were always in my heart. Oh the stories daddy would tell! You were like a younger brother to him and in his heart you always will.
You will be so deeply missed by myself and our entire family. I wish you peace!
Jeff, We worked together for 20 years. You were my first client-you gave me my first chance. You were dedicated, loyal, professional, funny, sarcastic and very, very smart. We closed 95% of our deals together. We made a great team. You are deeply missed as a colleague and a true friend. May you rest in peace with your parents and may your family and loved ones find comfort. You will be in my thoughts always. Vivian, colleague
I’ve been working at Fimat USA Inc. for about 4 1/2 years and he was the person that hired me. I remember how nice he was, and I remember that as soon as I walked in his office, I totally had a crush on him because he was such a distinguish man and ever since that day, each time I looked at him, he made my day. He was such a warm person, and he had a beautiful personality. God bless his family.
I have tried to write this so many times, but have been unable to until now. Jeff and I were best of friends from high school until after college. I still remember the morning after his first date with Rise, he told me “I am going to marry that girl”. There are so many other memories, too many to recount here in the space I have. The last time I saw Jeff was at our high school reunion in 1995, and when it was announced that we were to have our 30th reunion in Oct 2001, the first person I was excited to see was Jeff.
Rise, Josh and Ashley…..I hope that you are all doing OK, but I guess it can never be OK without Jeff around. I think about Jeff so often.
Jeff, I hope you are at peace where you are now. I miss you.
I have known the Goldflam family since I was a little girl. My family and their’s enjoyed each other’s company at barbeques, parties, Bar and Bat Mitzvah’s and other special occasions. I loved spending time with them and especially enjoyed all of the laughs that we all shared. When my parents split up, and things were chaotic, Jeff was such an amazing friend to my dad, and I recall many instances where my dad would tell me that Jeff is the kind of person who you can always talk to and count on and how he was the most “down to earth” guy he had even had the priviledge of knowing. Rise, Josh, and Ashley…my dad and I love all of you and miss Jeff very much. Our hearts go out to you every minute of every day.
It has been three years since i have not seen my dad. I have been wondering and hoping that people are still visitng this website to read and write about him. I hope this message can keep the spirit of my dad alive. I miss and love him so much.
Yes, I have been visiting this website. I knew Jeff in Freshman year at SUNY Binghamton. We were close friends. Jeff was a special person in my life and I will always remember him. My condolances go out to his family.
Ashley,
Just to let you know not a day goes by that I don’t think of your dad and all of my co_workers.
May God Bless You, Your Mom and your brother.
Theresa Nugent
It’s only going on 4 years and it feels like yesterday – every day. Jeff is missed and thought of every day of my life. He was and is still like my second father. I often think about you Ashley, Josh and Rise.
I miss him terribly and one day when my son is older, he too will know how special Jeff was to me.
My Accounting family is deeply entrenched in my heart always.
I continue to visit this website to view what others have written, share in their thoughts and remember a wonderful man,father,husband,brother and uncle. Fortunately I see so much of you when I am in your home, with my cousins, my aunt or my mother. Even when I see a Porche or Jaguar on the road I cant help but smile with thoughts of you. Your memory and spirit have not been forgotten. I love you and miss you Uncle Jeff.
Jeff, my love,
We adored and loved you so very much.
You are forever in our thoughts .
Not a day will go by without thinking and
and picturing your beautiful eyes, fabulous
smile and everlasting love.
Your wit, wisdom , honesty and intelligence
are forever instilled in our children. You lived
your life with very high standards and values.
Josh and Ashley have followed on our footsteps and
have matured into caring, intelligent, and
wonderful adults. You adored them and would be so
proud of them. I miss watching you look at Josh
and Ashley with so much love.
We smile when thinking about you and how you
enjoyed racing in your sportscars, planting the
flowers around our home, enjoying a good book
by the pool, and how very much you loved the beach.
We miss you so very much but get our strength
from the everlasting love that you gave us.
Rise
Thinking of you always.
I love you.
We miss you and will always love you..
You are forever in our hearts and thoughts.
Rise, Josh, and Ashley
we adored you..
forever think of you..
will always love you..
a fabulous husband
the most devoted father
the love of our lives….
Dear Rise, Josh and Ashley,
(9/12/06)
I just wanted to let you know that I think of Jeff and my colleagues often and I can’t believe 5 years have past. My life it seems is not moving but every where I look, it has changed. I feel time has essentially stopped. My thoughts are with you always. He may be gone, but he will not be forgotten.
Thinking of you always! I love you.
not a day will pass without thinking of you..
we carry you in our hearts and live each day
thinking of you.
you will always be with us.
Rise
I had a dream the other night and you were there. It was so great to see you and talk to you again. Still missing you and love you.
Thinking of you always
Not a day goes by that you are not thought of. It was only 6 years ago, but it always feels like yesterday.
You are missed, truly.
Ashley and I had a dream about you on the
same evening.
You were so loved by your friends and family.
You are always with us and would be so
proud of your children .
They have truly shown your strength, wisdom,
work ethic and strong family values in living
their lives.
I miss you and will always love you.
Rise
I miss you and think of you every day. Even though i’m working and grown up i’ll always be your “baby girl.”
You are missed and thought of more than words can express. 7 years still feels like yesterday. Rise, Ashley and Josh are always in my thoughts and my heart.
We miss you… We adored you…
Not a day will pass without thinking of
our wonderful life together.
Forever in our hearts….
Rise
To this day, September 11, 2008, I still have great memories of Jeff that I find myself thinking about. Exactly one year before the attacks, I started a new job in a new city with Deloitte. I was assigned to Jeff’s company as their auditor. I met him shortly after starting and quickly began building a great working relationship. I learned a lot from him. I spent many days and nights working in the tower with the Company. One night riding the subway home, Jeff asked if I ever wanted to leave the firm, he would love to have me on his team. I turned it down, but it meant the world to me. I was not in the tower that day for unique, but blessed reasons. My wife and I learned after the attacks she was pregnant with our first. We decided on the name Grant. It was not until many years latter that I learned Jeff’s middle name was also Grant. Take care my fellow CPA, the accounting world misses you.
Chris H., former auditor and friend
Thinking of you. Miss you. Love you.
We think about you everyday and miss our lives
with you.
You would be so proud of your children and the
incredible and responsible adults they have
become.
They are your legacy.
You were so loved….
Rise
I miss you and will always love you.
You are missed. Every anniversary feels just like the day it happened. I will always have that empiness in my heart; you were like a second fatnher to me.
Jeff:
This is the first time I am writing down my feelings since 9/11. Not one day goes by without me thinking of you. The memories Alan and I have with you will forever be with us. We all met when we were so young and I still remember you and Alan winning Monopoly every time we played (how can that be) and every July 4 we would go to Jones Beach and see the Fireworks, being the Matron of honor at your wedding ; the list goes on. You know I will always be there for Rise, Josh and Ashley and know that you are watching over all of us.
I miss you very much. You were very special to me and your caring for me meant alot.
Love, Andrea Davis
I think of you and am so lucky and proud to have had you in my life for 16 years. I’ll always try to make you proud. I love you.
Jeff, you will never be forgotten. You were a special part of my life.
We shared a special and unique love that few
ever have. Josh, Ash, and I miss you and
will forever carry you in our hearts.
Jeff, it has almost been 10 years. With tonight’s news it all came rushing back. On that Monday, I brought my new baby in and asked if I could have another week of maternity and you said okay. You basically saved my life Jeff. It is a debt I can never repay. Blessings to you and your family.
Today is 9/11/11- I didnt know Jeff very well but I do know what a kind and wonderful person he was. I worked in the Chicago office at Fimat and met him just a few times. On 9/11 everyone was horrified that Jeff had been one of the victims. I saw this website years ago but didnt write anything, today I just felt it was important to tell you, his wonderful family that he has not been forgotten, even by those who didnt know him well. I hope you are doing well and that there have been more and more smiles every year since that dreadful day. My thoughts are with you…
It has been 10 years and not a day goes by that I don’t remember..
You are missed beyond words..
Dear Jeff,
10 years have come and gone and it seems like yesterday! I will always remember and never forget! R.I.P. Theresa..
My life has changed forever..
Ten years have passed, but you are not forgotten. I wish the best for your family.
I was just sitting here talking to my father, Richard Jarecki, remembering what happened on that day because a friend of mine, Donna Summer, died on Friday of lung cancer from what is suspected exposure to air surrounding the disaster.
I was so happy to find this tribute to Jeff. I was just telling my father how I worked with Jeff at Mocatta Metals (Falconwood) and how he was the nicest guy I had ever worked with – I was young and probably a legal intern at the time and probably an inconvenience at best, but he was always incredibly gracious and wise and funny. It was utterly heart-breaking to hear of is death when it happened but now it is heart-warming to remember him so well. What a great man.
Jeff, it’s been 11 years. No words anymore to express the sorrow that day brought upon us.
You will never ever be forgotten.
9/13/2012
I just found this web site today. I never had the privilege of knowing Jeffrey, but I feel I know him after reading all of the tributes to him on this web site. I purchased a prayer bracelet shortly after 9/11 and received one with Jeffrey’s name on it. I have prayed for his family ever since. I had always wondered if he had children. I found out from this tribute page that my daughter shares the same first name with Jeffrey’s daughter — different spelling (Ashleigh) — but same name. Rise, Josh, and Ashley, I am so honored to have received your husband’s/dad’s name when I ordered my prayer bracelet. I will continue to pray for your consolation and peace.
Susan B.
You are deeply missed by all your family and
friends. Josh, Ash, and I feel surrounded by the
powerful love and support you had given us.
You would be so proud of your beautiful children
and what successful and loving adults they have become…We adored you.
After 11 years I still think about you everyday and try to make you proud. Our family is so strong and we continue to live and laugh and love for you and to keep your memory alive. You are missed and still so loved.
It’s been a long time but you are not forgotten.
Jeff, it has been 12 years and every anniversary is as painful as the first.
Not a day goes by that you are not thought of. You were not only my boss, but like a second father to me.
I think of Rise, Josh and Ashley often.
You are missed beyond words.
20 Septembers later and I continue to think of you always. You are missed beyond words.
I love you so much. I think of you everyday.