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Paul Innella Date of Birth: November 11, 1967 Department: Systems Position: Systems Analyst Our son Paul was born in Brooklyn on Veterans Day 11/11/67. He graduated from Brooklyn Tech High School and P.S.I. Institute of Technology. He then joined the workforce of Cantor Fitzgerald. He was a great son who always tried to do his best at all times. He loved all sports especially bowling, golf and fantasy football. He will remain with us forever, no child is perfect but Paul was 99.9% perfect. Love Mom and Dad
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What can I say about my friend, “Paul-man” (my nickname for him)! Well, he was the guy I went to whenever something went wrong with the QA database…he always fixed it without complaint. We had many laughs together and he always called our QA cube the ‘loudest’ on the floor but he loved being around us! His cube was right outside our 4-desk area (before he moved), so we talked daily and he always put a smile on my face. Paul, like many of my other friends, made coming to work a pleasure! He was a good guy and great friend. I still miss his laughter here in the new work site but, I know he’s in a better place with all of our other Espeed buddies having a great ole’ time! My prayers are with his family and friends.
I knew Paul only because I took up one of the cubicles in the department he worked in. We both would strike up conversations here and there and have a drink after work to discuss our “personal” woes. He was really down to earth and special in his own way. He definitely will be missed.
Paul was a great friend and co-worker.
I will always have fond memories of
our conversations and jokes during the year
that we worked together. He will always
be in my memories and will be missed very much.
I will never forget when Paul and I got stuck in the elevator with a few other people. Paul knew I was freaking out and after many unanswered ringings of the emergency call button, he took matters into his own hands and pried the doors open so we could get out. In the entire time we were stuck in there, his main concern was if I was ok. Paul was always concerned with other people’s feelings and I and many others always appreciated that. Paul is in my thoughts daily and I know he is looking down on his family and friends from above.
“Big Paulie”..was my nickname for a great guy who would do anything for anyone. Paul was a source of inspiration for all those who new and worked with him. To my friend Paul, rest in peace my commrade, we will meet again.
One Love
One Heart
One Destiny
I will always remember Paul as a great person who loved his job and was willing to share his knowledge and enthusiasm with others.
Paul (my Slash), was a GREAT friend! He would have done anything for me. We went way back, and as often happens, lost touch over the years. But he was always in my thoughts, and always will be.
Paul made a lasting impression on the hearts & souls of everyone who knew him, he was one of a kind! He’s our angel now, watching over us, and I know that one day we’ll be together again.
Pauly,
Was always there to defend the Mets in those hour long Yankee-Met debates with Vinny D’Amadeo. I’ll miss the laugh and the back up. A truly good guy.
My brother Paul will be missed by all family and friends. He is the Godfather to my daughter Heather. I know he is looking down on his niece and watching and guiding her through her life.
Since Paul’s passing, everyone he has touched has been reminded of the many wonderful qualities that he possessed. He was loved by so many people for his confidence, courage, sense of humor, dedication to his family and friends, work ethic and love of life. He touched all the people that he met in some positive way.
We will miss him and treasure all the moments that we were able to spend with him.
Love,
Maria, Jim, Jimmy & Heather Rich
Paul and I grew up on the same street in Brooklyn, NY..
Everytime I saw him he was always happy and smiling..He was always joking around..He would do anything for you.. He enjoyed life and lived it to the fullest.. He will be missed.
My prayers are with his family and friends!
Gina M. Leone, friend
We watched Paul grow up and go through the good stages of a Brooklyn kid: Little league,bowling, school days,baseball games in “the lot”,1st Communion,Confirmation,Graduation,block parties,nintendo marathons,backyard barbeques,New Year’s eve parties,the Innella’s Christmas parties,Monmouth Park,Mets games,Night at the Races,weddings and anniversaries. We saw him grow up from an infant to a man and we are deeply saddened that he is no longer with us. We can only take consolation that he is in a better place trying to qualify for “Who wants to be a Millionaire” because that was one of his recent goals. Paul, we know that you are the best “fastest finger contestant” in heaven !
We miss you and you will never be forgotten.
I knew Paul since the day I walked in to the Cantor family in 1991. Since then we were working in the same group until year 2000, when he started working for a different group. He is a very hard worker and on top of that he was very smart. Whenever I had any work related question I went to Paul and he was there to answer it. He was (will always be – in my mind) my best friend and I miss him very much. The space given is not enough to talk about Paul (PIA – that’s my nickname for my buddy Paul). May his soul rest in peace.
Venkateshan Pundi
Even though Paul and I are cousins, I never got the oppurtunity of knowing him that well. He grew up in Brooklyn and I grew up in Lowell Massachusetts. Over the years we visited and what stands out in my mind most about Paul is that as a 5 or 6 year old he knew the name of every Met. He would proudly show me each baseball card and tell me EVERYTHING about each player. Many years passed until I saw him again at his sister Marie’s wedding. I remember that he was the life of the party. He was fortunate to have inherited his parents sense of humor.
My prayers are with all who loved the many victims of this tragic event.
Diane Daggett, Lowell, MA, relative
My father and I knew Paul for many years. We bowled together on the VA Hospital bowling league. We have many fond memories of all the Wednesday nights we would bowl against each other, whether he was bowling on the same team with his father Paul or his Aunt Marie’s team. Paul always made it fun. We miss Paul, but know that where ever he is, he is bowling 300’s every game. We miss you Paul. We are truly blessed that you touched our lives.
Joyce Rivera & Chuck Geduldig, friends
The many beautiful tributes to Paul Innella serve to confirm everything good that his parents have said. I never met him, but through them know what a special person he was.Shirley and Paul,I know that your hearts are broken and your souls are wounded, but be comforted with the knowledge that your son inspired so much love and admiration in so many.Love, Martha
Paul is my cousin. We did not know each other well because I grew up in Florida and he grew up in New York. When I read all the wonderful things everyone is saying about him, I wish I would have been able to know him better. I remember how much fun it was visiting him and his family. New Yorkers are a blast. Paul, I love you and I am so happy you are at peace.
Your cousin,
Laura
Friday Night Bowling and the drinks afterwards, Summer BBQ’s, Touch Pool Football, that You and I turned into Rough Tackle Football, and those 5:30 am calls to Charlie for golf, are only a few of the memories that we shared as friends. You will truly be missed and forever will be in my heart and thoughts……
Paulie…He was my dance partner whenever the Lindy was played at a formal affair. He was the one to “beat” at pinochle or bowling, even though I knew I didn’t have a chance at winning. He was the one to make sure I put my QUARTER in the cup when I missed my spare at bowling. And made me pay for the beer when I missed the “beer frame.”
That was Paul, he loved to aggravate me and I loved him because he did it. He was the person to call if you had a useless trivia question, especially if it was a sports one. He was one of the people I’ve ever known.
I think of him everyday. I will never forget his laugh or smile, and the way he said hello, the way he said my name.
I wish with all my heart he was still here.
I haven’t seen it mentioned yet, but a tribute for Paul would not be complete without a mention of his love for the rock group Kiss. In the few years that I had the pleasure of working with Paul, I was always amused by his knowledge of Kiss facts and his love of the band. My prayers and thoughts go out to all his freinds and family.
Mike
Happy Birthday Paul!!! We miss you!!! Your nephew Jimmy sang Happy Birthday to you in Heaven.
Love,
Maria
Happy 1st Birthday in Heaven Paulie! You are surely missed down here. I cannot say we agreed on everything, but I can say that we each knew that we can rely on each other in good times and bad. He was the type of guy that would give you the shirt off his back. I will surely miss Paul. He had a special zeal for life that was infectious. Paul was probably the most competitive person I knew and I say that with admiration! Whether it was a card game, board game, or on the golf course you could always count on Paul to add a competitive spark to the game. He made life fun!
As I read through the tributes to Paul, I could only smile as I now realize (too late) how much he rubbed off on me and how much he made me laugh and smile. Love You Paulie.
Paulie- what can I say – I prayed for you that day as I was walking down the stairs, hoping I would see you on the way out.
I will forever treasure the friendship we had. I will miss everything about you…..I will remember all the good times we had at barbecues and Halloween parties with your crazy costumes. I will miss you dancing…I will miss you joking….I will miss your laugh…I will treasure the great times we had together…
You will always be a good friend…Until we meet again…Donna
P.S. Happy Birthday, Paul – I’m sure the parties are great in Heaven!
Paul was the person who trained me when I came to Cantor. I was so impressed at how well he could explain things. He had been at Cantor his whole working life and really knew the business, so he was the one I always went to with the business questions. Since he knew everyone and was full of fun and enthusiasm, he also provided a lot of the entertainment in our area, which greatly relieved the boredom of sitting in front of a computer screen. He will be missed by so many people!
Paulie, even though I had lost touch w/ my bowling crowd, I often thought back on all those wonderful, crazy, fun times. I will forever remember, Friday night bowling, all the parties and BBQ’s at your house – the peach and rootbeer schnapps, the Halloween parties, BIZ BUZZ, your “Father Time” costume for the New Year’s Eve party at your house (that took the cake), apple and pumpkin picking and our group trip to the Bronx Zoo. Those memories and you will forever remain in my heart. You will be missed but never forgotten.
Paul was my nephew and I love and miss him very much. Whenever I came to New York he was always so nice to me. I didn’t see him grow into the fine man he was because I lived in Florida. He always made me laugh and was so polite. He was so caring, always putting others first. He certainly was a shadow of his parents, my brother and his wife Shirley. He will remain in my thoughts always as the wonderful person he was.
Love, your aunt Audrey.
I knew Paul for the year and a half I worked at Cantor. I was always impressed with the way his sense of humor blended with his down-to-earth sensibilities. He was one of the first people to come to my goodbye party, and that’s how I’ll remember him – laughing, kidding around, having fun. I wish comfort and strength to his family, and I wish restful peace for his kind soul.
I didn’t know you as well as I would have liked to, but you always brightened my day when we had the chance to speak.
Tracy
For so many years I would toss pennies into fountains and wish on falling stars and blow my birthday candles out with the secret wish of meeting my true love. Then finally in September 2000 I did.
Paul was the love of my life and his smile, laugh, and everything about him will always remain in my heart as if he was still here with me. I was so lucky to have him for the brief time that I did and fortunate to feel the true love that we felt. We were so happy living together and cherished every moment we had with such a great contentness that neither of us have ever felt before. We shared all of our hopes and dreams for our lives with one another and our families. I miss Paul and loved him more then words can express. I can still hear him say good night to me before going to sleep. I can still feel his kisses every morning as he leaned down over the bed to say good bye before leaving for work. I know that he died knowing he was loved very much, not only by me, but by everyone who knew him. I felt that I was the most lucky woman in the world to have Paul love me and to share a love with him that only a man and woman can truly share. Paul made me feel special and I will never forget our precious year together.
I appreciate all of your notes and cards. Please keep in touch with me as I am always so happy to hear from all of Paul’s family and friends.
Paulie, what can I say? You were the first person I thought of on 9/11. I was heartbroken to learn that we lost you. I remember when you started at Cantor as a night-shift computer operator. You were a hard worker then and you proved to be a very steady, reliable, eager-to-learn, friendly guy as you moved up the ranks to become a programmer. As I read the tributes, it’s no surprise that you became an SA and that so many people found you to be a valuable resource and a good friend.
I shared an office with you as you met your future wife. That was the year that I married as well. It was great to share those important times in our lives as well as the day-to-day.
Thanks for being the down-to-earth, fun, humble guy that you were. God bless you and your family. Rest in peace.
I did not just lose my future step father, I lost my best friend.
Kyle
Paulie:
We only knew each other 2 years but it feels like it was a lifetime. All we ever did is laugh and have a good time. We had the same sense of humor. Parties are not the same without you. You are greatly missed by Frankie and myself. When I think of you and my other friends lost that day, I always wind up with a smile on my face because I remember the good times not the bad. I know that is what you would want. You lived your life to smile and laugh. Paulie you will be forever in our hearts.
Paul’s wit always brightened my day. He will be missed and always remembered.
Paul,
There are really no words to express how unfair this all is. You had so much living left to do, and so much left to live for. Although we had lost touch, I will always remember you for the kind-hearted person you were when we met, and for your ready smile and sincere concern for those around you. I am sure you spent your last moments trying to help others, as that was your nature.
By the way, I still only drink Coronas now, and I think of you every time I put the lime in and flip over the bottle to let it sink. Thanks for that tip and for saving me from the world of Coors Lite. 😉 You will be sorely missed, and probably by more people than you would have ever expected.
I am praying not only for you, but for all those you left behind here on earth. What an incredible loss for all of them.
Today was the 3rd month anniversary of the tragedy at WTC. There was a moment of silence at 8:46am and then the President made a speech about how those who are lost will never be forgotten. This is very true.
Your picture with Nicholas hangs on my wall – a reminder of one of the many great times we shared together as friends. I dream of you often (you always said “Lori, what goes on in that mind of yours?”). Even in the most obscure thoughts that come to me in my sleep always – you are smiling and I can always see your face and hear your voice clearly. Maybe you are trying to tell me something!
I miss you and pray for you everyday. Anthony and I don’t talk about you to eachother because it hurts too much. But, I always tell people how I lost one of the greatest people on earth on
9-11.
The new year to come will not be the same without you. We (Anthony & I) miss you.
I wish I had gotten to know him better. After every conversation I’ve had with him, I came away smiling or laughing. His smile and laughter is greatly missed, by all.
Upon learning of the fate of the WTC early AM Sept 11, my first thoughts were of my husband’s cousins in Brooklyn – of their safety or if there was anything we could do. It wasn’t until my husband contacted them that we found out that Paul was missing. Although I have never met him I feel we have lost someone very special. We went to Brooklyn and met relatives my husband hasn’t seen since he was a boy. We attended Paul’s memorial mass and have kept in contact with our NY cousins since. I keep Paul in my thoughts and prayers daily and know that someday we will meet in Heaven. Happy Birthday Paul. Bless you.
Diana
Paul was a really sweet and easy-going guy. It was always a pleasure to work with him. I send my deepest sympathy to him family.
I knew Paul for many years. In the 11 years that I worked for Cantor, it seems like whenever there was a problem he was there for me. A major contributor in helping the Accounting Dept. in its attempt to become more automated. It was fun to be around Paul, always quick to crack a joke to lighten the mood. He liked to be involved in everything. I can remember Company softball games, going away parties and the Corporate Challange in Central Park. He was there always. My prayers are with his family and may his soul rest in peace.
Paulie,
The few times I have talked to him he was so uplifting and full of life. Always carried a smile on his face. Even though he is no longer here we all know he is smiling down at us from up above.
Sincerely,
Shelie
Paul was full of life! No one will ever be able to contest this fact. It was this strength that I saw when I asked him to come help my team support eSpeed. Paul wanted more and wanted something to challenge himself. I only hope that I gave him that challenge. I couldn’t have been happier to work with such and energenic and caring individual. Pau would often start his day and 7:30am and end it at the same. Round out a perfect 12 hour day. I believe it was because he truly loved to make a difference and he did!!!.
Paul made everyone smile. He was a part of the firm which can not be replaced. He loved his job, colleagues and most of all his new family.
Lucy and Kyle meant the world to Paul. He would call Lucy several times a day just to say hello. He loved Kyle as his own son as was very intent on being the best father he could be. We often talked of taking our sons bowling together. Something I wish we had had the time to do.
I truly miss the man who would venture into my office about a dozen times a day. He made me laugh, he taught me, but most of all he made me cry the day he left me. I miss you my friend.
Chris
In honor of my Brother
Paul’s brother Billy Innella bowled 300 last night in his league with his team named “In honor of Paul”. This is something Paul strived for all his bowling life.
Billy will receive a ring for this achievement which will be inscribed with the words “IN HONOR OF PAUL”.
Paul and Billy’s Mom
Shirley Innella
Not only did Paul bring happiness to so many, as proven by so many tributes here, but he also gave life to a beautiful little girl who shares his birthday. Victoria Jacquelyn turned 2 this past November 11th, 2 months to the day that her father was lost. I am sure that if she were old enough to understand the enormity of her loss, she would tell Paul how much she will miss the opportunity she would have had to have him in her life, and how she will ask about him over and over as she grows, looking for answers to the hole in her heart. His absence will be felt on her first day of school, her first communion, her first father-daughter event, her prom, her graduation, her wedding…. when she wonders where she got those eyes… for the rest of her life.
So yes, Paul is gone, but he lives not only in spirit, but in life. And now Victoria has a parent to watch over her here on earth, and another to watch over her from above. And I am certain that he is doing just that.
3/11/02…It has been 6 months since you were taken from us all,you are in my daily prayers now and always…Diana
Paul,
You are thought of and prayed for everyday. I have started a scrapbook of us as kids to adults. I cherish each picture I have of us together. Jimmy still mentions Uncle Paulie. We are going to Disney in May/June and I’m sure you will be on our mind often as Disney was one of your favorite places to go. We love you and miss you.
My husband and I were so happy to have Paul here with us every day. I remember how his eyes got filled with tears the day he and Lucy got engaged and he told us about their plans. Paul was such a joy to us and we were proud to have him as our future son-in-law. Paul wanted nothing more then to make us all happy, which he did for the year he was with us. I never heard my daughter laugh so much as she did over the past year before Paul’s death. Lucy and Paul had a wonderful and loving relationship that anyone would be envious of. It is beautiful and at the same time sad to read these tributes to Paul. He is and always will be missed by us. His laugh and smile are with me always. Paul took such good care of us and we miss him more every day. We looked forward to when Paul came home after work and yelled hello to everyone thoughout the house, his stong voice was so comforting. I will always remember how he enjoyed treating me to peach pie and my husband ice cream, he got such a kick out of bringing things home to us. He was a great part of our family and we truly loved him like our son.
God bless you Paul.
Love,
Lucy M. Aita (Lucy’s mother)
I liked Paul very much from the first day that I met him. I never realized at that time how many interests he really had and how passionate he was about so many aspects of life. I have known people who loved the Disney movies and theme parks, but no one as much as him. I was looking forward to traveling with him and I knew he would have helped me perfect my pool and bowling skills. I will always remember his hearty laugh. No matter how much activity was going on in the house, whenever he laughed (and he laughed frequently!) you could hear him from the top floor to the basement! There is not a day that goes by that I don’t think about Paul and about the happiness and kindness he brought to me and my family.
Michael Aita
Today is Easter and another lonely holiday is passing without Paul. I am thankful for my family and their love and support and are grateful for my son and his love…but miss Paul so much it hurts. I cried today after being given an Easter Lily as a gift. I remembered last Easter Paul snuck out of bed early in the morning and went to the store and came back and put an Easter Lily and fiancee card by our bed and kissed me to wake me up. I looked up and saw the beautifull Lily and Paul smiling at me. He kneeled down and kissed me and said “Happy Easter honey, it is our first Easter together of many”. He was so sweet and sincere and I remember sighing with contentness and tears coming to my eyes. I didn’t realize the next week that my mother had planted the Lily that Paul gave me Easter morning. Paul is no longer with me but will always be with me in my heart, but the Lily lives on. The flower will bloom in a couple of weeks around the same time our wedding would have been. I will look at the lovely white flower on our wedding day and think of Paul and how much we loved each other and how life would have been if this never happened. Then I will ask him to give me more strength to go on without him just as I do every day when I wake up and go to sleep at night. I will honor him always in my life no matter where life takes me and will love him forever.
Lucy, Paul’s fiance
We just got back from our 2 week stay with Jimmy & Heather in Disney and the surrounding Florida area. Paul was thought of often each and everyday we were there. He loved Disney and Seaworld and his presence was felt on many rides and attractions. Paul may not be here to share our future in this world but our memories of his thoughts and feelings are very strong in our hearts and minds. We love you Paul.
Dear Paul, to the man who was my light, Happy Father’s Day in heaven. You were the best man I have ever known and will probably know, and for that I am blessed. I am not the only one. Some of us wonder if there is someone on the other side watching and protecting us from any harm to come our way, if in fact it would happen at all. Someone like a guardian angel. I believe in them. And I believe that because you were so good here, you can’t help but be that where you are now.
Tori is very fortunate to have you as a father, and now she is dually graced by having you as her personal guardian angel. She is the only one that can call you by that special name……Daddy….
I know you are needed where you are now and thats why you had to go. You have touched our lives doing what you were meant to do now it is our job to continue. You are missed inmeasurably so…….every single day.
Dear Paul, to the man who was my light, Happy Father’s Day. You were the best man I have ever known and probably will know, and for that I am blessed. I am not the only one. Some of us wonder if there is someone on the other side watching and guiding us,and protecting us from any harm that may happen,or if at all. Someone like a guardian angel. I believe in them. And I believe that because you were so good here you can’t help but be one where you are now.
Tori is very fortunate to have you as her father. And now she is dually graced by having you as her personal guardian angel, because she is the only one that can call you by that special name…….Daddy…..
Paul you are very missed and thought of every single day that passes. Thank God for you. I miss you too.
I come to this site often to read the memorials of all the people that loved Paul and how much he is missed by so many. I think of Paul and our love nearly every minute of every day and miss him more then words can say. I only can hope now for peace and contentness for all those that have been effected. Paul was a wonderful step father to my son Kyle, fun, caring and loving, yet firm in a true fatherly fashion. I am sure he would have made a great father to his daughter. Paul and I so often talked about our future together and his plans for us and our lives and getting old together, even that we looked forward to as long as we had each other. As others go on with their lives in the same manner…but with the loss of Paul always in their minds, my heart aches for his love and the feelings of lonliness without him with me everyday is immense. I sincerely hope everyone can find peace within themselves and can share this peace with others. Paul was the most wonderful man in the world and I know this is what he would have wanted for everyone.
Paulie – I just wanted to say thanks… thanks for the memories I have, at work and on the golf course, and thanks for your guidance from above. I was given the challenge of filling your shoes and, although I still have a way to go, I know you are my TradeSpark Guardian Angel and you have helped me along the way. (Sometimes I think I can hear you sniker when I have to redo what I just did because someone changed their mind.)
I wish we had more memories, but the ones I have will last a lifetime. Thanks for everything.
Dan
Hey Beef, I have all these thoughts and emotions going on inside. I think of you all the time and I miss you. I think of the time you, me and Jeff went to the Mets game together., Jeff and I were waiting on Aunt Marie’s stoop for you to get home from work, and there you came walking real fast (almost running) up the block, with the biggest smile I had ever seen on you. You were wearing black jeans and a navy blue jacket. We went into Aunt Marie’s and you washed up and we were off to the Mets game, hoping to see Johnny Rocker pitch. What laughs we had that night, eating hot dogs, drinking beers and I finally had my knish. I remember we laughed over the guy who was still trying to walk up the stairs even after the game was over. The light in your eyes still shines. They named a division after you in Fantasy Football “Legion of Doom” in your Honor. Wish you were here, I love you.
Paul…
So here we are approaching a year. Tori’s been asking a lot about you lately. Thought I’d get a little more time before I had to talk to her about this, but she does understand. So, now she tells everyone who will listen that her dad’s in heaven and that’s why she can’t see him. Then she adds that he goes to the diner there. And Chuck E Cheese. And the deli. Apparently she thinks you’re doing a lot of eating up there. But I guess if anyone up there will find the best deli, it will be you. 🙂
It hurts to think that she will go through her life with this void. Right now she accepts my answers because she’s 2, and she’s all-accepting. You’re not GONE, you’re just living in heaven where we can’t see you. Sooner or later she’s going to realize how unfair this is. I only hope I can ease her into this enough for her to be able to grow up without anger. She’s a smart kid, though, so that might work. In the meantime, I show her photos of you a lot, and she usually just announces, “Hey! There’s my dad!”
As we approach a year without you on this earth, I pray that you have found some peace. I continue to remember your bright smile and mischievious grin – both in my memories, and in the little girl who looks more like you every day.
We both miss your presence here immensely.
Until I see you again, peace and love.
Jen
Hey, Paulie – what can I say – it’s been a year without you, and there is not a day that goes by that me and Ted do not think of you. You are so missed, you can’t imagine. Our parties are not the same without you. Golf is not the same without you. Nothing will ever be the same without you.
I did dream about you – and you were happy, with that smile on your face. You didn’t talk to me but you were happy, and I’m glad for that. You are in a better place and someday we will all be with you again, partying like we use to.
As September 11th approaches, the memories are still like yesterday. Your picture is in the Monmout Library and everytime I am there on Wednesday’s for my support group, I visit you. You are smiling in your picture, as always. I cry everytime I see it. Your pictures are in my house and I say hello to you every day.
I just can’t describe the feelings I have right now that this has happened to you. I am angry that you are not with us………..but all I can hope is that you are in a better place and you are smiling upon us.
This has been so hard for me and all of your friends. I miss you and so does everyone else, and not a party goes by without a toast to you. We love you!!!!
Dearest Paul,
As one year approaches I find myself thinking of you more and more and still can’t believe that one year is upon us. In the past year I have visited this site and you often and wasn’t the least bit surprised at how many people loved you. This is just the kind of man you were. In honor of you, I have worn my RED, WHITE & BLUE Ribbon every day since September 11, and I pray that you are at peace and bowling those 300 games.
There is something I have to tell you because I truely believe that you had something to do with it: During the spring of this year I was cleaning out some stuff and came across a stack of loose photos. To my joy they were pictures of all of us at various events – bowling dinners, birthday parties, the Bronz Zoo, BBQ’s, apple picking and other events. I was soo happy to find these that I smiled from ear to ear and even let out a little chuckle (you and your hilarious expressions). Then I shed a tear because I realized that I was looking into the past knowing that you are no longer in the present. I find comfort through the pictures and will treasure them always and forever. The pictures are now in a photo album along with some pictures I have of the World Trade Center. I have given the album a special cover and name:
In Lovng Memory
a Tribute to
Paul Innella
and the
World Trade Center Towers
God Bless Paul
One year has passed since you last kissed me and told me you loved me more then anything in the world…I can still hear you call me “honey” as if you were still here with me. The year we had together was the best year of my life…the past year the worst. I will see you in my dreams and you will remain in my heart forever. Your pictures hang in our bedroom as a reminder of the love we were so fortunate to have. My heart aches for you everyday and will forever.
Eulogy to my Spouse
We made a life together, a home and a household-
He was the world to me, and his love
Held me together in moments of joy and pain-
He was my spouse, come shine or rain,
I long to be with him again
In the great Eternity beyond all things;
My lover, my spouse
Who has gone far away from us
because of this tragedy that has touched the world
Too close to home to ever forget what really matters-
I wish you’d come back to me, and the world
And tell everyone what you really felt inside, of the pain
You feel at leaving me behind-
My lover, my spouse, it is but you and I
Against strange changing destiny, lucky in love, rearranged,
Our love eternal will forever burn, a flame forever more-
We were made for one another and fit together so perfectly
Our hearts beating as one
As free as our love was meant to be-
As free and beautiful as in the beginning,
And as we all must return to dust
And bid farewell to all we wish well
So, my dear, I say good night
Knowing that you will always be near me-
In my heart, your spirit blessed, I hold you close-
You used to sleep beside me, and now you rest
My cherished spouse, forever your love will guide me
Tim Cantey – Poet/Author
and
Lucy A. Aita – Fiance/spouse of the late Paul W. Innella
HELLO PAUL,
HAPPY ANNIVERSARY IN HEAVEN. I HAVE WANTED TO WRITE A TRIBUTE FOR YOU FOR SOME TIME BUT I WASN’T SURE WHAT I WANTED TO SAY.
I WANT TO THANK YOU FOR ALL THOSE DELICIOUS PASTRIES YOU BROUGHT FROM BROOKLYN, BUT MOST OF ALL FOR GIVING US A BEAUTIFUL, FUN LOVING, SMART GRANDDAUGHTER. SHE IS SUCH A DELIGHT.
WHENEVER I BABYSIT HER, SHE ALWAYS ASKS ABOUT HER DADDY. THE OTHER DAY WHILE BATHING HER, SHE SAID, “WHERE’S MY DADDY?” I REPLIED, “YOU KNOW WHERE HE IS.” SHE SAID, “YES, HEAVEN.” SHE THEN SAID THAT SHE WANTED TO SEE YOU. I SAID, “TORI, YOU KNOW YOU CAN’T DO THAT.” SHE SAID, “BECAUSE HEAVEN IS SO FAR AWAY?” I REPLIED, “YES.” SHE IS RIDING HER TRICYCLE NOW AND REALLY IS PROUD OF HERSELF.
WE REALLY DID ENJOY KNOWING YOU AND TALKING TO YOU, ESPECIALLY OUR DISCUSSIONS ABOUT THE YANKEES AND THE METS.
AGAIN HAPPY FIRST ANNIVERSARY IN HEAVEN
AFFECTIONATELY
IRENE & BOB JONES
Paulie, A year ago feels like yesterday in our memory. Yet so much has happened since
you were taken from us. I remember looking out of the windows of the Chrysler Building at the burning towers and saying over and over
“Paulie get down…find a way down.” Your Goddaughter is growing up fast. She is taking
after you in that she is not talking as much as Jimmy did at this age. I hope that is not
a sign of things to come. As your Mom always says: “He didn’t talk till 3 but hasn’t stopped since.” I am sure you are giving the other angels an earful. Heather always smiles big when she sees Uncle Paul’s pictures. I believe she actually sees you as I am sure you are watching over her.
I miss your voice, your laugh and smile. I had the pleasure of golfing with Ted and Jeff once this year. Although our outing was not the same without the “Beef” we did have fun together. Thank you for introducing me to such great friends.
Maria, I, and the kids, along with your family and dear friends marched in the Brooklyn Memorial Parade in your memory this past weekend. We know Brooklyn was always home to you. You can take the man out of Brooklyn but not Brooklyn out of the man. We were able to spend time with your friends Ted and Donna, Jeff and Christine and we shared in our grief, sorrow, and happy memories of you. It was great to spend time with such true personalities from your life. Such down to earth people from your life who do not pretend to be something or someone they aren’t comforted us. We learn more about you each time we meet up with them.
We just got back from an All Faith Memorial Service with you whole family at a baseball park (fitting place for you) in Lakewood here on the 11th. Your daughter Tori is beautiful and plays so well with our kids. We gave her a shirt with your picture on it and she loved it and wanted to wear it right away. She is looking more like you every time we see her.
Happy Anniversary in Heaven Paul! We miss and love you very much!
Jim, Maria, Jimmy and Heather / Brother-in-Law, Sister, Nephew, Goddaughter
Paul,
Wednesday was indeed hard. It’s like a final realization. Tori and I went to your parent’s house, and we all spent our day not only remembering you, but finding comfort in the shared loss. Tori loves her cousins, and she recognizes your photo on sight. She felt right at home there. I know that you are finding comfort in that, and that you see the happiness she derives from knowing her family. All she is missing is you.
She’s having a hard time understanding – when I told her the service was for you, she thought that meant you would be there. So when we walked in, she said, “Where’s my daddy? Is he here?” She is learning, though, that you are ALWAYS here.
I also had to smile when Mayor Koch TOTALLY messed up your name at the memorial. If anyone would see the humor in that, you would.
My friends from JP’s called me on Tuesday night. They were remembering you and the fun we used to have hanging out down there. It was amazing how quickly you just fit in like a ‘regular’. You have touched a lot of people in your life. I don’t even know if you realized it.
We all miss you very much.
Love
Jen
In memory of my loving son.
I can’t believe it has been one year since the worst day of my life along with so many others. You are always in my thoughts and prayers.Rest in peace until we meet again.
Love Dad
It took me a long time to write about a truly special person. Paul was a wonderful soul with an insatiable zest for life. He wanted everyone around him to be happy & would bring joy & laughter to every life he touched, His family, his mother was the center of his life. Paul loved cartoons, wresting, sports of all kinds (he was nicknamed Howard Cossell because there wasn’t a sport he didn’t follow), and music. He listened to heavy metal (which sometimes worried his mom), Country Music, absolutely loved the Rock group KISS and could sing you any song by Barry Manilow. He loved to dance which I know he inherited from his parents. Paul brought so much to our lives & we are truly blessed for knowing him and being a part of his much too short time on earth. Paul lives on through our thoughts & memories & continues to live on through his daughter. What a special gift he has left us. She is a precious child who so much wants to know about her father. What better tribute to give to Paul then to share ourselves as Paul shared himself. To Paul thanks for the indeptable mark you left on our lives. To his Mom & Dad thanks for the fine son you raised, his family and loved ones, our sorrow for the life that was so tragically taken from us. To know Paul was to Love him, there was no other way. Until we meet again………
Paul was among the most beloved people at eSpeed. Evberyone in the building seemed to drop by and say Hi to him. And who wouldn’t want to? This guy always had a smile and a wisecrack ready to go. Glad to have had you as neighbor.
Dear Paulie,
Another Halloween is going to pass without you. I sure do miss you……….and your crazy costumes. The parties we all go to are just not the same without you. We always talk about you, whether it’s a party or just a get-together. You are always on our mind……and I hope you are looking down on all of us. It may be difficult for us to smile without you here…it’s a struggle every day – and there are times that we really need you with us. Paulie, I know you are in a better place and I know you are smiling down upon us.
I miss you and all your friends miss you too, and love you!!!!!!!!
Donna
Hi Paul,
Happy 2nd Birthday in Heaven!
Thinking of you & Remembering
Josephine
Happy 35th Birthday in Heaven Paul.
Our hearts still ache, nothing remains the same.
Until we meet again, rest in peace.
Love Mom and Dad
Happy birthday in heaven………….we really miss you!
Paul,
Happy Birthday!! This is your 2nd Birthday in Heaven and your Daughter’s 3rd Birthday on Earth. You can’t even imagine how often you are thought of and wished that you were here with us to celebrate your special day. I know you are having a cake with Grandma, Grandpa, Uncle Buster and Stryper. I made a small cake and Jimmy is going to blow out some candles for you tonight. We love you.
Paul,
I hope you celebrated your birthday BIG in heaven. I told Victoria on her day that it was also her daddy’s birthday. She got a big grin on her face. Next year she will really understand, and we will remember you aloud again. She has a little ceramic angel with “butterfly kisses” written on it. It has a little basket where she can put things for you. Last week she picked a mum and put it in there. I never know when she will mention you. She was playing in the car yesterday with her Magnadoodle and told me she was going to make a picture of her dad. I hate to tell you, she made your legs come out of your head. LOL So, she’s no Picasso. Then again, maybe she is. But she loves you, and you are part of her life. We miss you. God Bless and Happy Birthday, Paul.
Paulie,
So many things have happened in the last few months. The anniversary of 9/11 (which was so hysterical that KOCH muffed up your name-idiot!), the birth of my 2nd baby – Matthew (9/19), your birthday (11/11), and Thanksgiving – I really didn’t have the time to write you a note, but you were always in my thoughts!
Now with Christmas approaching, I find myself thinking of you! I look at the ornaments on my tree and think of all the fun times we shared at the Christmas and New Years parties over the years.
On Thanksgiving Day, Anthony was doing one of those puzzles (the metal ones – that you have to remove one of the pieces to solve), it took him a while to get the ring off but he did it – EVENTUALLY! While he was sitting there working on the puzzle, I could see YOU in my mind’s eye – taking the puzzle away from him and helping him solve the puzzle! You were so good at those mind numbing things – I always admired that in you!!!!
As I ramble on, I want you and everyone to know that so many things happen on a day to day basis that bring you to my mind.
I think of you ALWAYS! I think about how much you were part of our life and how much we miss you because you are no longer here.
You are in my thoughts and prayers – always!
LORI
Paul
I come to this site so often to read all of the
wonderful things everyone has written about you and everytime I want to write a tribute, I just don’t know where to begin. I always think about bowling with you and how you always showed me how to make the seven pin. I’m getting better at it and everytime I make it, it’s for you. The holidays are here again and I just wanted to wish you a happy holiday and let you know that I miss you and think of you always. Till we meet again, Linda
Blessed Christmas in Heaven Paul. Your presence was greatly missed last night as we opened our gifts without you with your Santa hat giving out the gifts. Every gift that you have ever given us seemed to be aglow in the room. My Brooklyn Dodger Santa, John Wayne’s collection, the Brooklyn Bridge etc. Every ornament on the tree had something to say about you. We treasure every memory of you. Thank you for all the great memories you left us. Rest in peace.
Your loving family
Merry Christmas Paul! You were greatly missed this Christmas. Our tree is covered with your collectible ornaments and will be treasured every Christmas.
Jim and I were going to Long Island on Christmas Day and as soon as we were on top of the Verrazano Bridge where on a clear day we can see the NYC skyline, one of your favorite Christmas songs came on the radio called Domenic the Donkey. It also came on at Jim’s sister’s house as Jim started to tell the story of how he hadn’t heard that song all season until we got to places that reminded us of you. He associates that song with you as he heard it for the first time driving with you and hearing you sing it.
We were going to spend Christmas night with your Daughter, who looks more and more like you, but it got postponed a half day due to the snow storm. She is so cute and lovable and we had a wonderful time with her. You would be proud.
We miss you dearly all the time but even more so at Christmas as we know how much you loved this time of year best.
Love Always,
Maria, Jim, Jimmy and Heather
We thought about you on Christmas (and every day) and I only hope you are in a peaceful place looking down on all of us. We miss so much – I’m sure you know that. And on New Year’s Eve, we will be thinking about you and remembering all the fun times we had together………….we love you, Paul, and miss you terribly.
Love, Donna & Ted (& Max, too)
To Paul’s parents and family:
I never knew Paul but I was compelled to add a tribute to him after reading all the heart-breaking tributes about him.
He sounds like a wonderful guy, someone who’s rare and precious. I’m so sorry that you lost him in such a terrble way. Life is sometimes unfair. But please be strong and content in the thought that Paul is in a better place now, rid of all pains and attachments of this life. He’s at peace now and would definitely be watching over you…
Please take care,
I’ll pray for you all, everyday of my life…
Hey Beef, its been a while since I have written, I just have to tell you how much I miss you. You are always on my mind. So much has happened in my life, so many changes, Jeff and I have since divorced and sold our house, I am still living in Jersey and he in Brooklyn, I know you are not surprised looking down from heaven, just saddened I”m sure. I got a tattoo on my right shoulder of an Angel, kneeling and praying, I got her for you, she is praying and watching over you. I miss you everyday, they say time heals all wounds, but not this one. My heart is heavier today, then yesterday. Love ya beef, your forever in my heart.
Another Mothers day has gone by without you. It was great to be contacted by so many that loved you to find out how I was doing on this bitter sweet day. Thank you again for the priviledge of being your mother for 33 wonderful years of your life on earth.
Your loving and heartbroken Mother Shirley
Hy Paul just wanted to say Hi like I do everyday. You are with me everyday and I feel you. I truly believe you were an angel put on this earth to spread his wings and share his joy and you did. I know you are bowling those 300’s, laughing with Uncle Buster, and reminising with Grndma… You were always a free sprit never afraid of nothing. You were always loved by family, friends, and most of all me. You were taken by us much too soon but I guess God had bigger plans for you. Thank you. How Blessed were we to have you in our lives. You are truly mised and thought about by so many everyday. There will never be anybody like you. Love you dearly and truly but you know that, you always did. Rest in peace…,,……
Forever Debbie
Hi Paul,
You have been on my mind lately I guess because Father’s Day is coming up, so I just wanted to wish you a Happy Father’s Day up in Heaven. I am sure you are watching your daughter from up there and wishing you could be with her and your family and friends. I know they all miss you terribly. Anyway, HAPPY FATHER’s DAY IN HEAVEN.
Josephine
I feel that this poem is very appropriate to Paul and Lucy’s loving relationship. I thought it should have a prominent place on this memorial site.
Eulogy to my Spouse
We made a life together, a home and a household-
He was the world to me, and his love
Held me together in moments of joy and pain-
He was my spouse, come shine or rain,
I long to be with him again
In the great Eternity beyond all things;
My lover, my spouse
Who has gone far away from us
because of this tragedy that has touched the world
Too close to home to ever forget what really matters-
I wish you’d come back to me, and the world
And tell everyone what you really felt inside, of the pain
You feel at leaving me behind-
My lover, my spouse, it is but you and I
Against strange changing destiny, lucky in love, rearranged,
Our love eternal will forever burn, a flame forever more-
We were made for one another and fit together so perfectly
Our hearts beating as one
As free as our love was meant to be-
As free and beautiful as in the beginning,
And as we all must return to dust
And bid farewell to all we wish well
So, my dear, I say good night
Knowing that you will always be near me-
In my heart, your spirit blessed, I hold you close-
You used to sleep beside me, and now you rest
My cherished spouse, forever your love will guide me
Tim Cantey – Poet/Author
and
Lucy A. Aita – Fiance/spouse
Well, 4th of July is coming around and all your friends will be thinking of you. We make a toast to you and hope you are happy in heaven. We really miss you and wish you were here with us.
Love Donna & Ted
Paul,
You are thought of each and everyday. Hopefully we will be seeing your daughter over the 4th of July weekend. Jennifer brought her out to see Mom & Dad, myself and her cousins not too long ago. The kids had a great time. She definately has your eyes and Mom can see herself in Victoria. She is a pleasure to watch grow up, you would be very proud. Missing you greatly.
Paul, it has been a while since I updated your site here so I figured it was time. Hardly a day goes by that we are not reminded of you. Your family misses you deeply. I tried updating this a few days ago on your god-daughter’s 2nd Birthday but I kept getting errors. So I am trying again. Heather reminds us of you often being a good eater and already loving the pool. She appears to be following in your footsteps as she seems to have been slow to start talking, but gradually increasing the amount she talks to where we sometimes cannot stop her. We miss you often but especially on all the “red letter” days when the family always gets together.
Maria, myself and the kids finally had the courage to go to Ground Zero this past weekend and said a prayer for you. We were being tour guides for my family. Yesterday, Jimmy lit a candle for you and Stryper in St. Patrick’s Cathedral.
Now that the rain has stopped, I hope to get up with Ted to have a golf outing in your memory.
We miss you Paul!
Love
Jim and Family.
Paulie,
July 4th just passed and as usual, I was thinking about you. I haven’t been able to see the Trade Center fom my porch since 9/11 but everytime I sit on the stoop, I look at the sky, think of you, and say a prayer.
I wish you were here to have played with my kids. You would have gotten such a big kick out of them, as they would have you! I often find myself thinking of all the things we used to do together. I will always remember the way you said Hello when you answered your phone!
Your picture still hangs on my fridge and another in my hallway – not a day goes by that we don’t see your SMILING face.
Although saddened that you’re not here, I’m so glad that your daughter Tori will have a wonderful legacy to learn about you.
How I wish things were different for you and all the people lost on 9/11. But I know that you are in a great place, and I take comfort that your looking over all those that you loved and that your memory will live in us always.
Love ya Paulie!
Lori
Hi Paulie,
Sorry I haven’t written in a while, things have been crazy, but I have visited you. With the second anniversary approaching you have been on my mind more than usual, practically everyday. I get so angry and sad each year as this day draws near, one would think that things would get easier, but they don’t. I am so sorry that this had to happen to you, that you were taken away from your family and friends. I can only imagine how hard it has been for them, it’s been hard for me and I hadn’t seen or spoken to you in years. I can only hope that you are happy and in a better place watching over all you loved ones and protecting them.
God Bless you Paul
Josephine
Hey Paul,
It has been two years now since you are gone. The whole family is coping the best we can and you would be proud. The kids are getting so big and Jimmy asks for you often. He is always saying that Stryper and Uncle Paul are in heaven together.
We are going to see Victoria for the 11th. She is so beautiful and precious. A pleasure to watch grow up. Keep watching over us Paul, especially Mom & Dad.
Love always,
Maria
Happy 2nd anniversary in Heaven Paul.
Spent the day at your crypt after mass. It is so beautiful and peaceful there St. Anthony’s Courtyard. We prayed for you and placed flowers there. Your eternal candle is lit next to the “Pieta”. Jesus was only 33 when he died also.
You deserved something real special, I hope you are pleased. May you rest in peace until we are together again.
Love Mom
Hey Paul,
I am sitting here thinking of you tonight; looking through some pictures and remembering you. I know you have well-established your place in heaven now – maybe you started a bowling league up there. 😉 I remember the times you spent working with Joey on his game; he has continued to bowl and I thought I’d tell you that Saturday he bowled a 225 in league. Not too shabby for an 11 year old. I think you would have enjoyed that. Tori loves to bowl as well, but let’s just say, “Thank God for bumpers”.
She’s getting bigger by the day, and she’s clever as can be. She loves scratch off lottery tickets. Always asking me to buy them so she can “itch them off”. Don’t know WHERE she got that from.
We went to your crypt site on 9/11 and said a prayer for you. Tori, Jimmy, Heather and Christopher all ran around there and enjoyed the peaceful grounds. On the ride back was the first time Tori understood enough to ask me how you died. I told her you had an accident. And then she said “Mom, well I want to have an accident too so I can go see him.” Forgive me for discouraging her, please. 😉 But I wanted you to know she is thinking of you and as she gets older she understands more and more. I know you’re watching over her and helping her grow.
She asked me how she can talk to you and I said she should try to feel you in her heart. She didn’t understand at that moment; it’s pretty abstract for a 3 year old. But the next day she said to me, “Mommy, I can feel daddy in my heart today.” I asked what you said to her and she said, “Hi”. LOL – a man of many words.
Rest in peace Paul. We miss you.
I would like to take a moment to say – Hello, How are you.
I would like to take a moment to say – I am happy to know you, to work with you, to talk to you.
I would like to take a moment to say – Although we will not work together forever, I am grateful and thankful for our time together, for sharing some of my life with you and you with me, Thank you.
Please do not forget to take a moment on 9-11 to remember what happened to years ago and for all of the fallen people of that day, the lost and the injured.
Please do not forget to tell the people around you how you feel about them, Hug them, give them a Kiss and tell them you LOVE them and CARE about them. Dont be ashamed to reach out and help someone or share a smile or take a moment to listen, dont be in such a RUSH, STOP and ENJOY what is around you. Surround yourself with loved one and things you love.
I have a FRIEND his name is PAUL the last time I seen him, I HUGGED him, KISSED him and told him I LOVED HIM and thanked him for being one of my closest friends, we laughed and shared that brief moment and he walked out my front door got into his car drove away and 8 days later on 9-11-01 he was taken from me.
I am so thankful for that brief moment that I took, we took, to share our feelings for one another, its what gives me some peace inside.
As hard as life can get and as angry as we can get, PLEASE DONT FORGET TO BE HAPPY AND SHARE GOOD TIMES WITH PEOPLE YOU LOVE. Dont go to bed angry, settle your arguments.
Beef its two years gone by, I miss you so much, I wish every day that you were here, I know that you are with me, but what I would give to hug you again and laugh with you again. You are always in my heart and soul. We all talk about you and remember our good and tough times together. May you have peace in Heaven. God Bless, I Love you
Your friend forever, Christene
Happy 36th Birthday Paul,
I read this and it really touched my heart.
“The Broken Chain”
We little knew that morning that God was going to call your name. In life we loved you dearly, in death we do the same. It broke our hearts to lose you, you did not go alone, for part of us went with you, the day God called you home. You left us peaceful memories, your love is still our guide, and though we cannot see you, you are always at our side. Our family chain is broken, and nothing seems the same, but as God calls us one by one, the chain will link again.
Love Mom and Dad
Dear Paul,
Happy birthday, Paul. We sure do miss you terribly. We would have partied for your birthday, and I’m sure you are partying in heaven today. We want you to know you are always on our minds and in our hearts. It’s not the same without you, and I don’t think it ever will be, because you are not there.
I can’t seem to go to your crypt yet, please forgive me. It is going to be a very hard day when I do, and I guess I don’t want to face that right now.
Missing you and thinking of you, on your birthday today and always.
Love, Donna & Ted
Paul,
Happy 36th Birthday in Heaven!! Jimmy and I are baking a cake to celebrate your day. Keep looking down on us and guiding us. We love you and miss you greatly.
Love,
Maria
How great is it that your birthday is
on Veteran’s Day? The day of heros.
And how fitting is it that you have your only child born on your birthday? It’s like you gave her an extra special little little gift for her to always have. It is a close personal bond that only you and she can share, I know that makes you happy. I remember you telling me how cute you thought she was when you were with her.
I miss hearing your stories, and most of all I miss you… I am glad that she is here for your family, and that every time they need to see you alll they have todo is look into her eyes.
Happy Birthday Paul
Happy Birthday Paulie
How much you’ve been on my mind this week. I wish you were here so I could call you and say “Happy Birthday – you’re still older than me!” Or perhaps, a dumb eCard would have passed your email today, whose to say?
Well, I love you! I pray for you and think of you so much. We’ll have a drink to toast your special day.
Lori
Happy Birthday Paul
Sorry I’m a little late in your Heaven Birthday Wishes, things have been crazy. I Hope you celebrated big up in Heaven.
Josephine
Dear Paul,
Although, I only had the opportunity to be in your company on several occasions, that was all that was needed to know what a truly wonderful person you were. There aren’t many people like you in the world. I want you to know that you are in my prayers. I know that you are in heaven and watching over the people who love you and that you love. I know now, that you are able to see everything from where you are. I know that you are aware of those who truly love you and will always love you. For my very best friend to honor a man, you had to be unique. My best friend has shown me, through her heartache, how to appreciate the people I love, and how not to take for granted that they are alive. You have touched the lives of many, but there is one imparticular person, in whom you have changed their world. I thank you.
Christine Perrone
Dear Paul,
Although, I only had the opportunity to be in your company on several occasions, that was all that was needed to know what a truly wonderful person you were. There aren’t many people like you in the world. I want you to know that you are in my prayers. I know that you are in heaven and watching over the people who love you and that you love. I know now, that you are able to see everything from where you are. I know that you are aware of those who truly love you and will always love you. For my very best friend to honor a man, you had to be unique. My best friend has shown me, through her heartache, how to appreciate the people I love, and how not to take for granted that they are alive. You have touched the lives of many, but there is one imparticular person, in whom you have changed their world. I thank you.
Christine Perrone
Hi Paul
Was thinking of you today, and wanted to write a little note to you to say – Merry Christmas up in Heaven and Party Big on New Year’s. Watch over your family and daughter as I am sure this will once again be a difficult time for them.
God Bless you!
Josephine
Merry Christmas Paul,
Christmas is the hardest Holiday without you because you loved it so much. You are constantly thought about and prayed for.
We love and miss you.
Mom and Dad
Paul,
Wishing you a very Merry Christmas and Happy New Year in Heaven. Even though you weren’t with us during your favorite time of the year, your spirt was here and was a very comforting feeling. Keep watching over us from above.
Love always,
Maria, Jim, Jimmy & Heather
Hey Beef, well its another year gone by and your not with us. We all think about you everyday and talk about you every time were all together. The holidays are so hard to get through, as much as you want to be happy and excited theres this sadness and hurt thats just with you, one you just cant shake. I miss you so much, these holidays were your favorite. Today is New Years Eve and I just had to let you know I am thinking about you, and the time you came out at midnight in a diaper. There are so many stories and so many happy memories, Thank you. Tonight we will raise our glass to you and share a toast and a tear in your honor. You are forever with me. I love you and miss you. God Bless
Your friend forever
Christene
Hey Paul,
I’ve been thinking about you……..I really miss you. It’s just not the same without you.
Love always,
Donna
Hi Paul
I was thinking of you today and decided to come visit you and say hi.
Josephine
Happy Easter Paul,
Your light shines just as brightly in our hearts as it did when you were with us. Holidays are the worst time for us, there is always something missing and no matter what we do it just never goes away.
You have our love forever.
Mom and Dad
Hey Beef, its been a while. Just wanted to say Hello and that I miss you so much. My life has changed in so many ways, I really wish you were here to be a part of it. Although you are always with me, I miss your physical touch and laugh and just hanging with you. We were out with Donna, Ted, Cona and Elaine the other night and you were the topic of our conversation (as usual). We all miss you so much. Anyway, just wanted to let you know I Love You and Miss You.
God Bless.
Love Christene
Hi Paul,
Another Fathers day without you. We made sure we all went to visit you today. Your candle is still shining brightly next to Aunt Marie’s, all I see are two angels side by side. I miss you so much and maybe in life I didn’t always tell you that I loved you, but I am sure you knew how much I did.
Love Dad
Hey, Paul,
Thinking about you as usual…Ted really misses playing golf with you. It’s not the same without you. 4th of July is coming up and we will be at the Cona’s – and again, we will be toasting you. We love you and miss you and I know one day we will see each other again.
Love, Donna & Ted
Hi Paul,
Have been thinking of you and logged on to visit you and say hi. I hope Father’s Day in Heaven was grand. So much has been going on in my life and I have not had a chance to write to you. I got married this past March to a wonderful guy who is funny and comical and comes up with these crazy ideas. He acutally reminds me of you in some ways, he has the same crazy, funny traits. He has two beautiful little girls who I adore. Then I lost my job in May due to a downsizing caused by the Bank One Merge – I tell you it’s nuts – what happened to the simplicity of life?
Watch over all those who love and miss you – God Bless
Josephine
The Value of a True Friend is Felt when Lost !
I’ll lean on you and you lean on me and we’ll be okay. Friendship is one mind in two bodies. If all my friends were to jump off a bridge, I wouldn’t jump with them, I’d be at the bottom to catch them. Hold a true friend with both your hands. Everyone hears what you say. Friends listen to what you say. Best friends listen to whay you dont say. A friend is someone who knows the song in your heart and can sing it back to you when you have forgotten the works. A real friend is on who walks in when the rest of the world walks out. My father always said, that when you die if you’ve got five real friends then you’ve had a great life. If you should die before me, ask if you could bring a friend. If you live to be a hundred, I want to live to be a hundred minus one day, so I never have to live without you. True friendship is like sound health, the value of it is seldom known until is is lost. Dont walk in front of me I may not follow, Dont walk in back of me I may not lead, Walk beside me and be my friend. We all take different paths in life but no matter where we go, we take a little of eachother every where. Friends are Gods way of taking care of us. Strangers are just friends waiting to happen. Friends are the bacon bits in the salad bowl of life.
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I miss you so much Beef, its July 4th again and its got to be the saddest holiday, I just picture you having so much fun at the barbeque, in the pool hanging with friends eating, drinking and being merry. Not a day goes by that i dont think of you and how much I miss you.
God Bless you,
Christene Ammoscato
When I watched the Towers in flames and knew you were up there, all I could do was cry and say “My brother is there” Aunt Marie and I cried and hugged each other as we watched to Towers fall. I thought about our family and how it would never be the same.
It has taken me all this time to pay tribute because my heart could not bear the pain of saying goodbye. Though the words were never spoken for they were hard for me to say. I loved you from the day I was born and will continue till the day I die.
Love Billy
Hi Paul,
Just got back from vacation and have been thinking of you. We went to Canada to Niagra Falls and to the Catskills, and visited the NY State Fair up in Syracuse. While at the fair I went to the tribute that they have for all those lost on 9/11. I looked for your name and said a prayer. The tribute is very nice and has all the names of the victims, on these big black columns. I was saddened as reality hit once again that you are gone. I still have those photo albums that I made in honor of you and look at them often. The third anniversay is coming and I’m sure it will be a very dificult time for everyone, including those who have lost touch. I will light a candle for you on that day as I do every year and say a prayer in your honor.
God Bless
Josephine
Paulie, Happy Father’s Day in Heaven! This was a hard one for me as it is the first time I got the chance to go see your crypt that your parents got for you. A beautiful site I must say. It was hard for me in that it was your Dad that wanted to make the trip and I feel so much for him especially on Father’s Day. It bring back memories of my first Father’s Day without my Dad. I cannot imagine the feelings your Dad has endured these past Father’s Day’s. I can only hope that my family spending the day with him helps ease his pain a little as we all miss you dearly.
You are always in our prayers!
Hey Paul,
Well, it’s that time of year again…..can’t believe it’s 3 years. We miss you more and more each day. It’s hard to explain, but things are just not the same without you. As for me, things have definitely changed. My life is never going to be the same, and the thing that bothers me most is that people just don’t understand. I know you are still watching over all of us and smiling and I can only hope that you are in a better place.
Love you and miss you,
Donna & Ted
Paulie,
Remembering you is bittersweet. Sweet because we remember how much fun we had together. How much fun our life was when we were with you. Like the time when you bet all our money (and everyone else’s to buy the horse on the trip to Bermuda; your dedication to playing cards, roulette, bingo, fantasy football, pinnocle. etc.) was so wonderful to watch, your dedication was laugable but genuine to everyone around you!!!
We think of you always,, especially during these sad times. But the ONE thing we always remember is the fun and happy times we shared together! Seldom a song is on the radio that we don’t think of you singing! On the the third anniversary of your passing we remember how many good times we had together… how much we love you and how much we miss you!!! I know that in my heart I so much wish you were here with us but away from us, maybe in another state, or something; instead of in heaven.
But, everyone should know and remember that you ALWAYS had fun doing whatever you were involved with!!. And, I feel in my heart that when we remember you today and any other day, we celebrate your life and your happy days!!
Paul, I wish with all my heart that you were here with us. But I also wish that when my time comes, your happy smile is waiting to take me to your home in heaven. We miss you so much. and I personally cannot hear our national anthem without thinking of you and all the people we lost on 9/11, without crying. The song and all those like it will NEVER be the same for me. But, I also think of the good times we had toghether and cry out of happiness!
WE LOVE YOU ALWAYS PAULIE!!
Lori & Anthony
Paulie, another 9-11 is here. I cannot believe it has been three years already. In some ways it feels like yesterday, in others it feels like a loong time ago. One thing remains the same. We miss you dearly! I have not golfed the past year or so. It is not the same without you. I come back here and read the tributes and everytime someone brings tears to my eyes with their tributes. Your Dad got me last time and your brother this time. Ted, Donna and Christine always as I know how much they miss you.
We MISS and LOVE you very much!
Jimbo
We attended on September 10, the mass at our church remembering all of the victims. At the end of the mass the priest greeted us and as we were talking I mentioned to him that we also should be praying for the survivors of Sept. 11 who are having a terrible time living with the horrors they saw on that day. On September 11 we had a mass in rememberance of you and the same priest said the mass his sermon was on praying for the survivors along with those who died. It was very beautiful and touching.
Your friends and family know the truth of your whole life and that is all that counts.
When memories last and carry on, a loved one is never truly gone.
Forever,
Mom and Dad
Paul,
We spent September 11th with Mom and Dad. We attended a Memorial Mass in your honor and we visited your beautiful crypt. Your Goddaughter Heather and Nephew Jimmy were very good in church and loved the beautiful grounds that your crypt is located on. We love you and miss you so much. Peace be with you always.
Love,
Maria
Happy 37th Birthday in Heaven Paul. We still cherish and hold onto every minute of every day of your life. We will be at your mass praying for you to rest in peace.
Forever,
Mom & Dad
Dear Paulie,
Wishing you a happy birthday in heaven! I’m sure you are still acting like a kid, like you always did. We love you and miss you so very much.
Love, Donna & Ted
Paul,
Another Birthday in Heaven. Hope you had a good one with all our loved ones up above. Your missed more than words can say. We love you!!
Love always,
Maria, Jim, Jimmy & Heather
Merry Christmas Paul
You’re the light in our window, the star on our tree, your our Guardian Angel for our family to see.
Hope you and Aunt Marie enjoyed Christmas as you always did.
Love Mom and Dad
Friends:
A simple friend has never seen you cry. A real friend has shoulders soggy from your tears.
A simple friend doesn’t know your parents first names. A real friend has them in thier phone book.
A simple friend brings a bottle of wine to your party. A real friend comes early to help you cook and stays late to help you clean.
A simple friend hates it when you call after he has gone to bed. A real friend asks you why you took so long to call.
A simple friend seeks to talk with you about your problems. A real friend seeks to help you with your problems.
A simple friend wonders about your romantic history. A real friend could blackmail you with it.
A simple friend when visiting acts like a guest. A real friend open your refrigerator and helps himself.
A simple friend thinks the friendship is over when you have an arguement. A real friend calls you after you had a fight.
A simple friend expects you to always be ther for them. A real friend expects to always be there for you!
Beef, you have always been a REAL FRIEND. I Love you and Miss you. Happy New Year.
God Bless
Christene
Such a beautiful and moving tribute! Wish I could have known Paul. Ms. Innella, I can identify with the poem about the missing link. On 9/11/2001 my family was anxiously awaiting test results from the day before for my sister who had been diagnosed with a rare, aggressive form of breast cancer. With already emotionlly stirred hearts, we watched the events unfold in NYC. It broke my heart to realize, families such as yours, would lose a family member like Paul. We lost my sister the following June, at the age of 47. Like your family, we look forward to the chain linking up again. God bless each of you!
We do not need a special day to bring you to our minds.
The days we do not think of you are very hard to find.
Each morning when we awake we know that you are gone.
And no one knows the heartache as we try to carry on.
Our hearts still ache with sadness and secret tears still flow.
What it meant to lose you no one will ever know.
Our thought are always with you, your place no one can fill.
In life we loved you dearly; in death we love you still.
Love Mom and Dad
Paul, you are always in our thoughts and prayers. Just a few days ago we got to spend the day with your Daughter Victoria. Jimmy and Heather loved playing with their cousin. Tori is so special and beautiful. She is so much like you, with your expressions and smile. We have so many new pictures of her with the whole family. She is a joy and a pleasure that you would be proud of.
We miss you and love you so much,
Maria, Jim, Jimmy & Heather
May Paul be resting in Peace its evident he loved Lucy as much as she Loves him, I feel sorry for his family who after his death are unwilling to deal with that love… Paul is up there some where looking down and its his tears falling when it rains
There were so many phone calls today trying to let me know how much they wanted to ease my pain and emptiness there was not one voice on the phone that wasn’t filled with tears and true emotion. The nicest thing that was told to me this day by someone that loved him very much at one time, is that she asked Paul once who was his best friend and he replied “MY MOTHER”. How beautiful a day can be when kindness touches it.
The only way to take the sorrow out of death is to take love out of life.
Rest in peace Paul,
Love MOM and DAD
There were so many phone calls today trying to let me know how much they wanted to ease my pain and emptiness there was not one voice on the phone that wasn’t filled with tears and true emotion. The nicest thing that was told to me this day by someone that loved him very much at one time, is that she asked Paul once who was his best friend and he replied “MY MOTHER”. How beautiful a day can be when kindness touches it.
The only way to take the sorrow out of death is to take love out of life.
Rest in peace Paul,
Love MOM and DAD
There were so many phone calls today trying to let me know how much they wanted to ease my pain and emptiness there was not one voice on the phone that wasn’t filled with tears and true emotion. The nicest thing that was told to me this day by someone that loved him very much at one time, is that she asked Paul once who was his best friend and he replied “MY MOTHER”. How beautiful a day can be when kindness touches it.
The only way to take the sorrow out of death is to take love out of life.
Rest in peace Paul,
Love MOM and DAD
Missing you and thinking of you every day. We miss the good times and all the laughs. We will see each other again one day in heaven.
Paul, I cannot believe another year has past. 4 years! It is unbelieveable. We had another memorial service for you and in the church I could not help feeling sad all over again. Each year it hits me differently. This year your God-daughter Heather was clinging to me the whole service. As she lay in my hands, I could only think of you and your daughter Victoria and how these moments were robbed from you and her.
We miss you dearly Paul!
Keep watching over us Paul!
Paul,
Another September 11th has passed and your still so missed. Through much drama your family has remained so strong. Thinking about you and how you loved Mom and Dad, and would in a second take away their pain, has made me continue to protect them and take the brunt of the controversy one tries to create. Your Family, Friends and anyone who had the pleasure to really know the real you have been so supportive and continues to show that support through phone calls and e-mail and just encourages us to not concentrate on the negativity but focus on the very positive. Like your Daughter who is an angel who is being raised by a Mother who is a wonderful supportive woman. You should be so proud. Keep looking out for us and as long as we know that you are there in spirit we know we will be just fine. I love you.
You were working in those towers that dark September day.
No one dreamed evil plans were being made.
You lost your life so tragically when the tower collapsed away.
The world will never forget your brave and courageous name.
Your family’s lives have changed and can never be the same.
Your fiancée Lucy will keep your love forever; to her you are so divine a spouse.
In Lucy’s your heart you will live; your bond will never cease to end.
Kyle not only lost a future step dad but he lost you, his best friend.
You did so many things together you would have been his dad a gem.
To parent’s Paul and Shirley you were the greatest son so fine.
You were the kind of friend anyone could want, funny, smart and kind.
If anyone needed anything you would be there to help at anytime.
You worried about everyone else’s feelings so gentle and sublime.
You collected baseball cards of your beloved Met’s to you they were so fine.
You loved bowling, golf and fantasy football with all sports you shined.
Your confidence, courage, and sense of humor touched so many lives.
You were a good friend to everyone just a sweet, easygoing guy.
You will never be forgotten your memory will live and never die.
You had a 3-year-old daughter that will someday grow to know about your life.
Forever in your fiances heart, courage and strength to everyone you provide.
Written By
Diane Huggins
Eulogy to my Spouse
We made a life together, a home and a household-
He was the world to me, and his love
Held me together in moments of joy and pain-
He was my spouse, come shine or rain,
I long to be with him again
In the great Eternity beyond all things;
My lover, my spouse
Who has gone far away from us
because of this tragedy that has touched the world
Too close to home to ever forget what really matters-
I wish you’d come back to me, and the world
And tell everyone what you really felt inside, of the pain
You feel at leaving me behind-
My lover, my spouse, it is but you and I
Against strange changing destiny, lucky in love, rearranged,
Our love eternal will forever burn, a flame forever more-
We were made for one another and fit together so perfectly
Our hearts beating as one
As free as our love was meant to be-
As free and beautiful as in the beginning,
And as we all must return to dust
And bid farewell to all we wish well
So, my dear, I say good night
Knowing that you will always be near me-
In my heart, your spirit blessed, I hold you close-
You used to sleep beside me, and now you rest
My cherished spouse, forever your love will guide me
Tim Cantey – Poet/Author
and
Lucy A. Aita – Fiance/spouse
Hi Paul,
Happy Belated Birthday in Heaven. I can’t believe that four years have passed since you were unfairly taken from this world and your friends and family. I hope you are at peace up there in the big sky and watching over your family, who I know are missing you dearly. I know you will never be forgotten as so many people still write to you. I guess it is our way of keeping you alive in our hearts and souls. My family and I are doing well. The baby is due in February and the girls can’t wait.
Anyway, please continue to watch over your family and your daughter. I feel for her most of all because she was robbed of ever knowing what a wonderful person you were.
Rest in Peace.
Love Josephine
Happy 38th Birthday Paul!
Death took our son one September day. We died inside. Time cannot heal these shattered hearts
We still think of you every moment of every day.
For all who are trying to heal. The only way to take the sorrow out of death is to take love out of life.
Until we are reunited.
Love Mom and Dad
Paul,
Another birthday has passed. Happy 38th!! The kids and I said a big prayer for you in Heaven. Victoria also turned 6 this year. It is so special for her to share her Birthday with you. Your nephew Jimmy had to create a family tree for cub scouts and he put a special cross where your name appears. Heather and Jimmy are getting so big and both have such personalities. You would laugh at their antics. They are so precious and bring us so much joy and happiness. Peace and love to you always.
Love,
Maria
Every holiday that passes without you feels like another life time. Thanksgiving is upon us again and I try my best to look at everything good in my life while still missing you.
My father is being brought home by ambulance for Thanksgiving. It is his first time home since Easter and his near fatal accident at the nursing home. He is now wheelchair bound and we all try to make him confortable and cook all his favorites. It is difficult for us when he asks where my husband is and I have to remind him of what happened to you, he always considered you my husband since the day you moved in and since that is how we felt we were happy about saying it, though, after he remembers you are no longer here he gets a sick look on his face, a look that sticks in our minds for weeks after. But we try to be festive and continue on as usual. I know you would have insisted on him coming home more often but because of the high cost of his medical care and transportion services, it is not possible. All of my support and then some goes for his care. We will have him home for one day at a time on all holidays as long as his doctors allow, and he is very pleased about that. He loves to play with Blackjack and Shuffles and they remember him and are so excited when they see him and this makes him happy. If only things would have turned out the way you wanted, if estranged persons would have not stepped in against you my father would be home with us and my mother would not cry as much during these last years of her life. It is hard not to be angry at so much and so many for their behavior after your death. I know it is not your fault you tried, it’s just timing and people deciding your wishes were not as valid as theirs. I know I tried my best for you with sincerety and honesty as you would have expected of me.
Well, I continue to do as much charity work as possible while caring for my Mother and Uncle Vinny who is now also terminal with cancer. With my Aunt only given less then two weeks to live I think of you even more and how I would have felt different with you still here with me. I am trying my best to stay strong during this holiday season. This year will only take out one of your dolls for rememberance with all that is going on with my families health we will have a quiet and reflective holiday rather then a joyous one.
I hope the little changes I make for the needy and disabled will honor you more and more as the years go by. I decorate the nursing home every holiday just as you said we would do together with Kyle. The smiles on the patients faces are worth all of the effort.
Kyle is a straight A student in his first year of high school and President of the Chess club. He has ambitions of being an attorney and attending Princeton University in the town he was born. You would have been so proud a father and though only lived with him for a year the impact you made on him was a great one. You would have loved playing chess with him now as he would have finally been competition for you, though I am sure he couldn’t beat you yet it would have been such fun. Though he shows no interest in your interest of bowling, though you say you were tiring of it and quit your league before your death (he says it’s a hicks game, lol) and I know chess and golf would have been a staple of your pass time with him. He cleans your clubs regularly with anticipation of the warmer weather. All the pictures of us together on the golf course remain in your album.
I usually don’t write here anymore but felt I wanted to at this time. I will continue to love you just as you loved me during your last year, the year we lived happily together. I will continue to update and change the tribute to your last years website as things occur to try to keep the truth alive.
Though you only had 1 year to love me, I will love you all the days of my life.
Your beloved fiance, Lucy.
Merry Christmas Paul
Another Christmas without you, and we miss you just as much now as we did 4 years ago. My heart aches for every mother and father who loses a child. Somewhere there will be a very special place for us. Somewhere where we will all share eternal happiness with our lost child again. Until then God bless all of us broken hearted Moms and Dads.
Mom and Dad.
Missing You
Words can’t express what you mean to me.
In the future, can’t wait to see
If you open up the gates for me
Reminisce some time,
the day they took my friend
Try to black it out, but it plays again
When its real, feelings hard to conceal.
Can’t imagine all the pain I feel.
Give anything to hear half your breath
I know your still living your life, after death
Every step I take, every move I make
Every single day, every time I pray
I’m missing you
Thinkin of the day, when you went away
What a life to take, what a bond to break
I’m missing you.
Its kinda hard with you not around,
know your in heaven smilin down,
watchin us while we pray for you,
everyday we pray for you,
Til the day we meet again,
In my heart is were I’ll keep you friend,
Memories give me the strength I need , to proceed
Strength I need to beleive ,
My thoughts, I just can’t define,
Wish I could turn back the hands of time.
Somebody tell me why,
On that morning, when this life is over,
I know
I’ll see your face.
Every night I pray, Every step I take
I’m missing you.
I miss you. I Love you.
Happy New Year BEEF…..
May God bless you on your fifth Easter in heaven.We will all share our memories of you as we visit your resting place. You are missed just as much now as the day we lost you.
Love Mom and Dad
Paul,
You are loved and thought of so often. We cherish all our memories with you. We all wore our American Shirts today in honor of you and so many lost that day. Peace be with you always.
Love,
Maria, Jim, Jimmy & Heather
Well Paul, the 5th anniversary of your tragic death has come and gone. The sadness in our hearts is still as strong as when we first lost you. I reflect on all the golfing we missed out on. Since losing you as a golf partner I have only golfed once or twice in the past 5 years. It just isn’t the same. I take Jimmy and Heather to the driving range and miniture golf occasionally and they love it. Maybe someday I will be able to get them on the real course to take your place as my golf partner, but even they will not be able to replace the memories and fun of golfing with you!
We also had the joy of taking Tori to Splish-Splash water park this summer! She is growing up so quickly and she reminds us so much of you!
Peace to you in heaven!
Jim
Happy 39th Birthday in heaven Paul! Uncle Tommy took us to church on the 11th where we had a mass said in remembrance of your birthday. Pray for your Dad.
Love Mom & Dad
Another Christmas without you. We feel your absence as much as always. We all sang “Dominick the Donkey for you” Jim taped it because he knew how much you loved it. Rest if peace. We love you.
Your loving family,
Mom,Dad,Maria,Jim,Jimmy,Heather,Debbie,Billy,Christopher,Victoria and our new member Casey.
Hey Paulie,
Just wanted to say out loud — that you are on my mind today, as you were yesterday, and will be for my tomorrows. Even though it has been awhile since I have written, I did not forget you and never will.—Love Eileen
Dear Paulie,
Thinking of you in heaven always. It’s just not the same without you. We miss you…….I wish things were the way they used to be before 9/11.
Always in our hearts,
Donna & Ted
Yet another anniversary. I think of you often and Miss you as much today as the day we finally gave up hope that you somehow survived the attack. Just yesterday I got confirmation of a golf outing that I will go on while vacationing in Nov. I cannot see or talk about golf without thinking of you. I will make sure to use one of the golf balls from your bag in your honor! So watch over me help me keep it straight.
You are still loved and missed so very much!
May God Bless Your Family and Friends and Keep You In His Hands!
Jim
Hi Beef. I can’t beleive how many years have passed. Its been a while since I wrote, but beleive me when I say your in my heart and thoughts every day. Just wanted to let you know I think of you all the time and I miss you….
Love you.
Your friend,
Christene.
Hey Paulie……..
Thinking of you always….like I always say: it’s never been the same without you. Ted has been golfing up a storm……and you are always in his thoughts. Golf is not the same either without you. One day we will see you in heaven.
Love,
Donna & Ted
Paul,
A quick note to say that I think about you, and all of my Cantor friends, each and every day.
Mike Kazazis
Paul,
Peace and love in your 7th year in Heaven. We love you so much and think of you often. Jimmy & Heather give their love.
Maria, Jim, Jimmy & Heather
Another 9/11 has passed, it is hard to believe it has been 7 years. I received so many calls and messages from my friends and family saying they were thinking about you and asking if I was ok. Everyone is sad that our lives together ended on 9/11 but they are again happy for me that my life now is back to normal, just as I am sure you would be too. You would be so pleased to see me now after losing 100 pounds (with red hair lol)…and Kyle growing up so wonderful and getting ready for college next year and a career on a swat team and bomb squad, you would be proud of him, and I bet extra proud with his career choice too. (though I know you are laughing that my hopes of him being a surgeon are not going to happen!)
I know how much you loved us and knew all the time no matter what anyone said or did. I never had a man tell me so many times a day how much they loved me and how much they wanted to marry me like you did. And though now I have a boyfriend who spoils me rotten and loves me just as you did I still remember our time together.
I only hope that those that did you wrong will get the justice they deserve, if they haven’t already. Some of the joys of life are good health and the love and honestly of family and friends, which I have been so fortunate to have always had… but honesty and the unconditional love that you wanted from so many you did not have, for that I feel sorry. Regardless, I still have you in my heart and will forever and no one can try to change that.
Thinking of you today as always.
Love,
Lucy
your beloved fiance
Went to a mass for parents who have lost children and grandchildren and read this:
HEARTS
Hearts in grief must seek relief in memories and tears. of what we shared with those who cared together all those years.
Past heart’s torn rift we seek to lift the hopes of those who stay on earthy soil and still must toil through long and bitter day.
For those who die, we wonder why. The time for them is now, Yet we must sorrow then face tomorrow and muddle through somehow.
This is not the end, we’ll meet again God’s promise will be kept but all the same, I feel no shame in all the tears i’ve wept.
With God’s own grace, I’ll see your face when it is my turn to die, I love you so, just that, no more; for now I’ll say goodbye.
Rest in Peace Love Mom and Dad
Blessed 41st Birthday in heaven. You are always in our thoughts and prayers. Our hearts will never mend until we are together again.
Love,
Mom and Dad
Dear Paulie, happy birthday in heaven!!! I imagine where you would be in life at this point and what new hobbies or events that you would have added to your life, how many more great parties you would have attended and how many new photos that you would have of your beautiful face.. there was nobody like you Paulie. I can only say this from the bottom of my heart, thank GOD you had an opportunity to have a child, her life is so precious, even to me. Even her birthday is your birthday. She had the best daddy. Love and miss you, Eileen
Eight years have not eased the pain or heartbreak of losing you.
Love Mom and Dad
Paul was the type of person that once you got to know him, you knew that you had a friend for life. A good friend who’s life was cut short. It’s been 8 years now and i still miss my buddy. Well Paul the bartender just called the last rounds for shots….I’ll have 2 shots of Stolis orange, one for me and one for my buddy Paul. Here’s to Paul …”never above you never below you always beside you” your shot is waiting for you. When we meet again we’ll have that last drink.
An Irish Prayer
Death is nothing at all.
It does not count.
I have only slipped away into the next room.
Everything remains as it was.
The old life that we lived so fondly together is untouched, unchanged.
Whatever we were to each other, that we are still.
Call me by the old familiar name.
Speak of me in the easy way which you always used.
Put no sorrow in your tone.
Laugh as we always laughed at the little jokes that we enjoyed together.
Play, smile, think of me, pray for me.
Let my name be ever the household word that it always was.
Let it be spoken without effort
Life means all that it ever meant. It is the same as it ever was.
There is unbroken continuity.
Why should I be out of mind because I am out of sight?
I am but waiting for you, for an interval, somewhere very near, just around the corner.
All is well. Nothing is hurt; nothing is lost.
One brief moment and all will be as it was before.
How we shall laugh at the trouble of parting, when we meet again.
You are still such a strong influence on our Christmas Celebration. You always shine through as always. Your absence will never be filled.
Love Mom and Dad
Thinking of those who loved Paul for who he was and not “what he had” – by which I mean his parents, siblings, daughter and family. I’m glad some justice prevailed and those who made false claims did not triumph. May he rest in peace now, I never forget. XXX
Nine years gone, your gone 9 years, I still can’t get over it. Yes, life goes on but that day, the absence of your life, is such a heavy reality to have. Thank God for memories, there are lots of good ones and the simple fact that you were in my life lets me know I am blessed to have known you.
I love and miss Paulie, Eileen
Happy 43rd Birthday in Heaven. Our lovc
emptiness grows deeper every year.
Love Mom and Dad
Ten years later, I still think of you and our coworkers who were there that tragic day. Will miss you always and wish it were different. Despite it all, your light still shines. Rest in peace, Paul. May your family be comforted.
Warm regards to all,
Maureen
Thinking of you Paul and the family that loves and misses you on this sad 10th marker of a cruel and awful day. Never forget. XXX
You are missed as much as ever. We love you
Until we meet again. Love Mom
Happy 45th Birthday in Heaven Paul. We love and miss you always. Love Mom & Dad.