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|Shari Ann Kandell
Date of Birth: September 21, 1973
Position: Assistant, Buy-Ins and Stock Loan Department
Shari Ann Kandell – September 21, 2001
Today is Shari’s birthday. We chose to have her Memorial Service on her birthday as a fitting celebration of her life.
Shari and I had a wonderful relationship. We shared the loves of music, baseball, silly movies and stupid jokes. Reggie Jackson was always and still remained her favorite baseball player. We didn’t share that.
Shari and I had a casual, friendly relationship in addition to the parental link. Often, when speaking to her on the phone at her office, I would make a silly, “typically Jan” bad joke or pun. Shari would comment on this, punctuating the comment with a particularly nasty epithet. Her co-workers in the office would say in the background,”Who are you talking to?” She would smile and say, “It’s just my Dad.”
The overwhelming and outstanding quality that Shari showed all of her life was her total selflessness. She did for others and put others’ needs before her own well being. All of her friends know of instances where she went out of her way to do for them and take care of others instead of herself.
Shari has now taken this quality of selflessness to its ultimate level. In light of this horrific event the world has experienced, Shari has helped all of us in this room to put a face on this heinous act. By all of us feeling the tragic loss of such a warm, loving person, she has reduced the breadth of the tragedy to a size that we can all more easily grasp.
Shari died because she went to work on Tuesday, September 11th. It was not because she had a certain political view or was the wrong color, race or religion. She was not heroic, running into a building to save others. She just went to work.
Think of the horror of this despicable act, killing thousands of innocent Sharis. You all now understand the personal tragedy of our family. Multiply that by the thousands of victims and the tragedy and horror becomes so much clearer. It is no longer just a smoky montage of video images wrapped with sentimental music. It is thousands of shattered families, missing key cornerstones, just like Shari.
We stare at the rubble of the destroyed buildings and we feel the destruction of the lives like Shari’s, not just the monetary damage assessments and incomprehensible numbers of missing persons.
Shari has done this for us. We will miss the sight of the World Trade Center buildings form the New York skyline. We will miss the “old” way of life that we enjoyed and took for granted before September 11th. But….most of all….we will miss the smiling, warm, loving, happy, wonderful friend, cousin, niece, granddaughter, sister and daughter that was Shari.
Happy Birthday, Shari.