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|Eric A. Stahlman
Date of Birth: June 13, 1958
Eric Stahlman…a true friend…family man…terrific husband and father…a good son and brother…generous until it hurt…sidesplitting funny man…huge fan of the Grateful Dead, Yankees, Giants and Islanders…lived life to its fullest. You didn’t have to know Eric Stahlman for more than 10 minutes to recognize that he was a very special and unique individual.
A true friend…
Growing up in Patchogue, Long Island, he was the ringleader of a group of friends that remained close friends for his lifetime. This past summer, he attended his 25th high school reunion. Many of his friends, who hadn’t seen him for a while, commented on how good he looked and how glad they had been to see him.
And through college, adulthood and his career in the financial services industry, Eric kept adding to this growing community of friends. And, his friendships were strong and lasting because he was a true friend, a best buddy, in every way. He was that special kind of person that when you were with him, it was impossible not to have a good time.
At the end of “It’s a Wonderful Life,” the angel Clarence writes a note to George Bailey that says, “no man is a failure who has friends.” If that statement is true, then Eric Stahlman was one of the most successful people who ever lived.
Family man…terrific husband and father…a good son and brother…
Eric’s family was the premier joy of his life. His son, Jacob, is a small replica of his dad. And his daughter, Allison, has inherited her dad’s loving, caring traits. Eric and his beautiful wife, Blanca, had a loving and supportive relationship. Now their many friends are standing by her.
It is easy to see how Eric’s parents influenced him. His mom, Renie, and dad, Sam, are smart, accomplished and caring people. Just this past year, Eric organized a 50th wedding anniversary party for his parents that was, by all accounts, a wonderful event attended by friends and family all over the country. Eric’s sister, Kathy, said that Eric as the best brother anyone could have wished for.
Generous until it hurt…
Eric was an extremely generous person. But what he gave out of his own wallet, which was considerable (it was always difficult to pick up any tab around him) paled in comparison to what he gave of his heart and his spirit. He cared about his family and friends and he showed it and it was genuine.
Sidesplitting funny man…
There was no one funnier than Eric. It was impossible to be around him and not laugh. And, if you could make him laugh, and really make him laugh hard, that was a reward in and of itself. He laughed so hard at times his friends thought they might have to call an ambulance.
Not only was he a great joke teller (one evening in a bar in Grand Central, Eric had a joke-off with another friend and the two went head to head for nearly and hour without stopping and without a bad joke) but he also had a great improvisational wit. He was smart and he was aware of what was going on in the world. And he had a knack for seeing the humor in any situation.
Huge fan of the Grateful Dead, Yankees, Giants and Islanders…
After his grandparents, Jerry Gracias was probably the first person that Eric tried to meet upon his arrival in heaven. And Thurman Munson was probably the second.
Lived life to its fullest…
Eric did nothing in a small way. His wedding to Blanca in 1993, which he planned for and with his bride, was unbelievable. He and Blanca shared a beautiful home in Holmdel, NJ. He attended countless Yankee games, played zillions of rounds of golf, reveled in new restaurants, and spent years laughing with family and friends.
Eric wouldn’t want his friends and family to be sad for very long. He would want us to live our lives, do as much as we can with our lives and have as much fun as we can while doing it. Is there any better way to honor Eric Adam Stahlman than to do just that?