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  James Sands Jr.

Date of Birth: May 24, 1963
Department: Development, eSpeed
Position: Strategic Development Engineer

Anyone who knew Jim will always remember him for being a “nice guy”, who always had a smile on his face. He was an intelligent, handsome, caring person with a great sense of humor
A lifelong resident of Brick, New Jersey, Jim graduated from Brick High School in 1981 and Monmouth University in 1985. He met his wife Jennifer in 1995, and they were married on May 4, 1996. They continued to live in Brick, and Jim commuted 2 hours to work everyday. He was a devoted son to his mother Geraldine; and a loving brother to Cindy, John, and Loree.
Jim had only been employed with eSpeed since December 2000. He was hired to design and implement the second-generation architecture for trading engines. He previously worked for Optimark Technologies in Jersey City, and was a leading developer of trading system technology.
Jim’s true passion, however, was scuba diving and underwater photography. He was an advanced level diver, who never missed an opportunity to explore marine life in the underwater depths of Caribbean, and capture its beauty on film. He and Jennifer would frequently visit Grand Cayman and Bonaire. Jim was working toward becoming a Divemaster and Scuba Instructor, and the couple planned on eventually retiring from their fast-paced professions to start a new diving career in Grand Cayman.
Jim also enjoyed other activities such as golf, biking, music, restaurants, Broadway shows, the NY Giants, and spending time with his family.
He will live in our hearts forever.



Jennifer Sands, Wife
  • To my “hon”, my soulmate…
    I Jennifer, take you Jim, to be my lawful husband, to have and to hold from this day forward…I promise to love you, honor you, cherish you, respect you, and adore you,
    all the days of my life…

    I miss you so much, hon. My heart is shattered. I know you are with me everyday…please continue to give me the strength to go on, until we meet again.

    Je T’Aime beaucoup, toujours…
    Jennifer

    Jennifer, wife
  • My Uncle was one of the most intelligent men I’ve ever met and at the same time one of the most caring. He had patience and time for anyone who needed his help and always did everything with a smile on his face. You don’t find that too often these days. He truly was a great man.

    Kevin Green, nephew
  • The first time I met Jim, he was on my doorstep (he just dropped off my sister)with such a pleasant smile on his face.And I remember thinking “what a kind face, what a caring thing to do, bringing Jennifer here so she wouldn’t have to drive home alone later!” When I saw the purple Corvette parked in the driveway I was really impressed! First impressions mean a lot and Jim always lived up to that first impression –kind,loving,dependable,great sense of humor. I was so thrilled that he came into Jennifer’s life;they were so happy together!We will always have great memories; even in the bad times, Jim made us smile!Thank you Jim, for loving and respecting our whole family,for embracing us as your own.Our hearts are broken.We miss you too much.

    Maria Green, sister-in-law
  • I say”Amen” to everything my family has written about Jim. He was truely a remarkable man whonot only enriched our lives but inspired them as well. As he lives on in our hearts and minds his example, that anything worth doing is worth doing well, will be a strong source of encouragement. Though or time together was far too short, I learned a great deal from Jim and will cherish the memorries. Thank you for your love and kindness,Jim. I miss you deeply, my brother.

    Tommy Green, Brother-in-Law
  • MY SON,

    You are the light of my life,
    You are the twinkle in my eye,
    You are the love of my heart,
    Until the day I die.
    MY SON,
    You have always made me proud,
    You have never let me down,
    You always made me happy,
    You never let me frown,
    I want to tell you thank you,
    For all the things you’ve done,
    You have always been there for me,
    I LOVE YOU, MY SON.

    Geraldine Sands-Mother.

    Geraldine Sands, Mother
  • Jim, you were such a gift to our family! You swept Jennifer off her feet and for six years you both shared true love and happiness. We thank you, Jim for all the precious memories we have…family gatherings, the trip to Aruba, the N.Y. shows, great restaurants. You always made us feel so special. I will think of you whenever I bake your favorite butter cookies or make meatballs…And Dad will cherish the times you spent together playing golf, enjoying gourmet food, or watching the N.Y. Giants. You will forever be in our hearts, our minds and our souls.

    Mom & Dad Trebino

    Mom & Dad Trebino, Jim's in-laws
  • Although I knew Jim for such a short time he was one of the smartest people I knew. I am sad that I will no have the chance to learn from you Jim.

    I hope that the you are enjoying the diving I am sure it is more beautiful then we can imagine.

    James Talvy, Colleague
  • Once in a great while, you are fortunate to meet someone who instantly touches your heart and soul with their warmth and personality. Jim is one of those rare people. Our times spent together with Jim and Jennifer may have been too far apart, but each and every one is memorable because of the love, laughter, and devotion they shared and shared with those around them. We’ve often remarked that his smile is contagious and effervescent, and his kindness and love of life undeniable. Every night when the sky shines bright, we look up and know that one of the brightest stars is Jim smiling down on Jennifer and his family.

    Louis Trebino, Cousin
  • My Brother,

    25 years ago I met a little kid who was the brother of my soon to be wife. During the past 25 years somthing began to change. The little boy began to grow up and mature into a fine young man. I also found that I enjoyed your company and friendship more and more as we both aged. You became much more to me than a brother-in-law. You became my friend, and even more, my brother. I am so proud of what you became and the person you became, it cannot be put into mere words. I will miss you every day of my life as we miss your nephew J.J. Until we meet again…
    Love,
    Your BROTHER,
    Johnny

    John Lesemann, Brother in Law
  • Jim and I hit it off immediately when we first met. I liked him instantly and and we shared fun ideas and many great laughs. Although in total I did not have the privilege to spend that much time with Jim and Jennifer, the moments we did have felt like we were old friends. He was such a sharp, witty and fun loving guy, you could not help but want to be around him.
    Jim – We will miss you. It is selfish of me to miss you but I do all the same. Do what you can to help Jennifer and the family. You are a strong soul. I look forward to meeting you again.

    Lars Ruggles, Friend
  • We will always remember Jim as a gentle person with a bright smile. We shared good times, good dinners, and quite a few good bottles of wine. Jim always picked the right bottle for the right person. That thoughtfulness carried over into all aspects of his life.

    One thing that always made Jim’s smile shine bright, was his love for Jennifer. You could see it whenever they were together, he just glowed! Jim and Jen were truly blessed to have found each other and experienced love some never know.

    Our time shared with Jim may have been less than we all would have wanted (much golf yet to be realized!)but it’s all part of a bigger plan. We’re sad you’re gone Jim, but we know we’ll see you again.We consider ourselves lucky to have known you.

    Rich & Lisa Lau, Friends Forever
  • Jim, I still remember the first joyful phone call from Jen after your first date….

    …..and although the three of us met with each other only briefly throughout the years, I know that you made my dear friend happy like never before in her life. You will live on in memory, you are lovingly missed. Be in peace, my friend.

    Amy Hara Jacobs, Family friend
  • A precious gift from God-Jimmy,

    I think back of highschool and the times in band and so many happy memories come flooding back. Playing at Giant’s stadium, band trips, Kings Dominion, making fun of Mr. LaGratta and just the simplicity of laughter. Life seemed so protected then! We then grow up and realize that we are part of a world that has fallen from our greatest protector.
    The world standed still on September 11, 2001 and watched in horror as many lives where taken away including yours and for that we are truly broken hearted. The time that you spent here with us was a happy time. You contributed so much to so many people and you will live in their hearts forever. You may have been taken from us, but we long for the day where we can meet up again in a place that is truly PARADISE!!

    See ya up there,
    John and Carolyn Sierra
    Raleigh, North Carolina

    John & Carolyn Sierra, Highschool Classmate
  • FROZEN IN TIME
    YET IT MOVES SO FAST
    IT’S HARD TO BELIEVE
    ONE YAR HAS PASSED
    IT HAS BEEN A YEAR OF HRARTACHE
    A LIFETIME OF ENDLESS PAIN
    WHAT I WOULDN’T GIVE
    TO SEE YOU ONCE AGAIN
    MY ONLY BROTHER
    I MISS YOU MORE THAN WORDS CAN SAY
    IF ONLY I COULD TALK TO YOU
    JUST FOR ONE MORE DAY
    YOU WERE MY LITTLE BROTHER
    BUT YOU TOOK CARE OF ME
    YOU WERE ALWAYS THER
    IN ANY TIME OF NEED
    LIFE HAS GONE ON
    AND AT THE SAME TIME IT STANDS STILL
    THERE’S NO WAY TO LET IN
    ALL THE PAIN THAT WE FEEL
    WE GO THROUGH ALL THE MOTIONS
    LIVING DAY TO DAY
    PEOPLE LOOK AT US
    AND THINK THAT WE’RE OKAY
    BUT THE PAIN THAT LIVES INSIDE
    WILL ALWAYS BE THERE
    AND SOME DAYS I THINK
    IT’S MORE THAN WE CAN BEAR
    I STILL CANNOT ACCEPT
    THE FACT THAT YOU ARE GONE
    I BURY IT DEEP INSIDE ME
    IT HELPS ME TO MOVE ON
    I STILL CAN HEAR YOUR VOICE
    SEE THE SMILE ON YOUR FACE
    I STILL CANNOT BELIEVE
    YOU’RE IN ANOTHER PLACE
    IT WAS HARD WHEN WE LOST JJ
    THAT’S ANOTHER CROSS WE BEAR
    BUT IT’S A COMFORT TO KNOW
    THAT NOW YOU ARE IN HIS CARE
    NOW WE HAVE TWO ANGELS
    SMILING FROM ABOVE
    EVERY TIME I LOOK AT THE SKY
    I’M SENDING YOU MY LOVE

    YOUR LOVING SISTER LOREE

    LOREE SANDS, SISTER
  • FROZEN IN TIME
    YET IT MOVES SO FAST
    IT’S HARD TO BELIEVE
    ONE YEAR HAS PASSED
    IT HAS BEEN A YEAR OF HEARTACHE
    A LIFETIME OF ENDLESS PAIN
    WHAT I WOULDN’T GIVE
    TO SEE YOU ONCE AGAIN
    MY ONLY BROTHER
    I MISS YOU MORE THAN WORDS CAN SAY
    IF ONLY I COULD TALK TO YOU
    JUST FOR ONE MORE DAY
    YOU WERE MY LITTLE BROTHER
    BUT YOU TOOK CARE OF ME
    YOU WERE ALWAYS THERE
    IN ANY TIME OF NEED
    LIFE HAS GONE ON
    AND AT THE SAME TIME IT STANDS STILL
    THERE’S NO WAY TO LET IN
    ALL THE PAIN THAT WE FEEL
    WE GO THROUGH ALL THE MOTIONS
    LIVING DAY TO DAY
    PEOPLE LOOK AT US
    AND THINK THAT WE’RE OKAY
    BUT THE PAIN THAT LIVES INSIDE
    WILL ALWAYS BE THERE
    AND SOME DAYS I THINK
    IT’S MORE THAN WE CAN BEAR
    I STILL CAN NOT ACCEPT
    THE FACT THAT YOU ARE GONE
    I BURY IT DEEP INSIDE ME
    IT HELPS ME TO MOVE ON
    I STILL CAN HEAR YOUR VOICE
    SEE THE SMILE ON YOUR FACE
    I STILL CAN NOT BELIEVE
    YOU’RE IN ANOTHER PLACE
    IT WAS HARD WHEN WE LOST JJ
    THAT’S ANOTHER CROSS WE BEAR
    BUT IT’S A COMFORT TO KNOW
    THAT NOW YOU ARE IN HIS CARE
    NOW WE HAVE TWO ANGELS
    SMILING FROM ABOVE
    EVERY TIME I LOOK AT THE SKY
    I’M SENDING YOU MY LOVE

    YOUR LOVING SISTER LOREE

    LOREE SANDS, SISTER
  • It has been a year now and I still do not have the words to express how much I miss you. As I look back at all the times we shared since before kindergarten some are more faded than others.

    Because of you I took up the trumpet. Because of you I graduated High School. Because you were my “best man” I made it to my wedding. We shared many friends and foes. We helped each other through the good times and bad. We helped each other through love and life.

    For over 35 years I knew I could count on you any time. Now that security is gone.

    I have spent the last year remembering all our times together; that will never stop.

    I have been amazed at the hundreds of lives you touched and affected. The out pouring of support to your wife and family is incredible. That is due in no small part to you and how you always treated others with respect and courtesy.

    But alas, it is time; time to say goodbye. I won’t do that here. I’ll walk outside tonight and light a really ugly cigar like the ones we would light when we played poker and then I’ll say good bye.

    I’ll miss you my friend.

    Love,
    Bob – 9/11/2002

    Bob Bausum, Life Long Friend
  • The Wedding Day Waltz

    Eyes shining
    Faces beaming
    Hands holding
    Bodies swirling
    Gracefully gliding
    Across the floor
    In 3/4 time
    A memory cherished
    By all, for all time

    Donna Tunney, Jennifer's cousin
  • Even though only my husband knew you and Jennifer personally, I feel like knowing you for a life time. Your wife can not stop talking about you..I grew to know your dear wife Jennifer and love her, and this all because of you..Even though you are not here anymore, Jennifer is reaping the harvest of the good you have sowed in so many lives. Thank you so much for giving her so much love, which she is now sowing into me and my family, even though we are so far away.
    Untill we finally meet someday in the presence of Jesus Christ,

    Ethel.

    Ethel Semeleer, Jennifer' s email friend
  • Jim,

    While the past two years have been unfathomably difficult for Jennifer, your love and spirit continue to shine through her. Your and Jennifer’s love were always an inspiration to others around you, and now you both are reaching out and touching so many more. God bless you both.

    Lots of love,

    Louis

    Louis Trebino, Cousin
  • I think of you all often and hope you are doing well. Thank you for giving me the pleasure of knowing Jimmy.

    Much Love,
    Denise, Erik, and Jake Paxton

    Denise DeBenedetto-Winstead, Lesemann Family Friend
  • Rei and I still find ourselves talking about you as if you were still here. The ONE consolation being that (as I’ve told Jen) by the end of the thought we are always smiling or laughing rather than crying. I feel fortunate to have known you pre-Jen, post wedding etc. It was heartwarming and inspirational to see your your life blossom in those years. In that way I don’t see your story as a tragedy but rather as a testament to the fullfillment of joy we can receive before we have to go. We should all be as fortunate in that way. People live long lives never realizing the fullness of a “real life” as you did. I think of you all the time and for whatever reason, have an inexplicable sense that you really are OK. Keep good care of Jen.

    MJ, prior co-worker and friend
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